The Five Secrets of Getting Lucky In Love

The Five Secrets of Getting Lucky In Love

Five Tips to Get Lucky in Love

Some people seem to have all the luck, especially when it comes to relationships.  Meanwhile many of you have had your hearts broken over and over and over again.  You wonder, what are the secrets to being lucky in love? Well, here they are!  I’ve worked as a psychologist helping thousands of singles get lucky in love.  And you can too—by using these five key dating tips to help you find your soulmate.

Lucky in Love Tip 1. Trust your intuition!

For example, you meet someone and the chemistry is right on.  He/she is flirting all out or saying outrageously flattering stuff to you.  You think to yourself, it sounds sincere.  You want to believe what he/she’s saying is real and not just a come-on.  What you need to do, is step back away from that powerful gab, even for a few minutes and consult your inner voice.  That is, feel your gut reaction to this person. That’s where your phony baloney meter is.  Trust your instinct—it’s almost always right!  Don’t waste time with people who won’t ultimately come through for you.

Lucky in Love Tip 2. Be still and in the now to find the lucky surprises and coincidences that can turn your love life on.

Most of us are rushing hectically around, getting work done, taking care of errands, running here and there.  We don’t take time to slow down and notice what is happening around us.  And so we may be sitting next to the love of our lives on the train or standing behind the ‘One’ at the grocery store and never actually speak to him or her.  In my newly revised and expanded dating advice book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love, I describe a Being-In-The-Moment exercise, where you take 10  minutes and  practice slowing down and paying attention to who or what is right in front of you. You would be surprised about the connections, lucky surprises and coincidences you will encounter if you pay attention to the people and things around you right now.

Say hello to a new person every day. He or she may be the ‘One.’  Even if they’re not, every person knows about 200 other people.  You never know what love connections may come from a whole new social network!

Lucky in Love Tip 3. Practice being grateful. Especially for being who you are.

Every day make a list of three things that you appreciate about yourself—even if it’s something small or silly, like having a full head of hair, or your weird sense of humor.  Studies show that keeping a gratitude journal is associated with being happy.  Getting yourself to be happy to be you is the key to being relaxed and attractive to others.  We are all attracted to smiling, warm confidence.  So falling in love with  yourself is the first step in finding the love you seek.


Lucky in Love Tip 4. Look for a good person who fulfills three requirements:

  • The person is crazy about you.
  • He/she is willing to grow and change along with you.
  • He or she is a good person

You won’t be lucky enough to find a partner that is perfect right off the bat.  The reason is simple: No one is perfect and here’s a news flash: neither are you.  Therefore, choose a partner who is willing to grow, whether that involves going to school, therapy or just  getting a makeover.  If you choose a growing partner you will create a relationship that gets better and better over time: This is your ‘lucky’ ticket to great love.

Lucky in Love Tip 5. Get yourself a loving mentor.

This is the most critical piece of relationship advice! Find a mentor, a person who you look up to, who is like a good parent or loving benefactor to you!  This is someone who believes in you and sees your attractiveness & your unique lovable qualities—a person who gives you courage to go beyond your fears.  Spend more time with this fairy godmother/father.   Take in what she/he says about you so that you can learn to think positively about yourself, irregardless of your wounds and problems from childhood. Love is very tricky and you have to keep your eye on these positives to get the treasure.  By focusing on the luck and love that is already coming your way you will build self-esteem and find the relationship that is the gold at the end of the rainbow.

Working with a Love Mentor can be a huge difference-maker in getting lucky in love

So that’s why I handpicked a group of seasoned therapists and other life coaches to help women around the world. In fact, as my gift to you, we can give you a free introductory 40 minute one-on-one session by phone or Skype with an expert dating coach.


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Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a relationship advice expert, frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show and the creator of a globally available dating coach and Love Mentor® program. Dr. Diana is also the best-selling author of the acclaimed best-selling relationship and dating book, “Love in 90 Days”. Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter.

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  1. Michelle Dauphinee on June 25, 2010 at 11:07 am

    I have been looking for a husband. I am starting to have better luck but have been wondering why men arent calling

  2. Dr. Diana Kirschner on June 27, 2010 at 8:25 am

    i suggest you read the first chapter of Love in 90 Days to find out how to meet lots of great guys. also the second chapter on Deadly Dating Patterns would be very helpful.
    Wishing you love!
    Dr. Diana

  3. kalpna sharma on October 26, 2014 at 6:24 am

    HEY Diana,
    I am so poor in love.
    Even being guy said I cheated on him…
    It’s so stressful for me.
    I tried my best to convince him but he is not ready for patch up.

  4. Joy on June 11, 2017 at 10:33 am

    Iam looking for real guy who dont smoke/ drink, who is ready to settle who want twins who would love and grow with me and until death do us apart

  5. Jim on March 22, 2020 at 9:54 am

    Most women nowadays unfortunately are very high maintenance with their very high standards which makes it very difficult for many of us single men trying to find love now.

  6. James on April 19, 2020 at 8:51 am

    How could many of us single men be lucky in love since most women do have very high standards nowadays?

  7. Jim on April 21, 2020 at 10:40 am

    You have to be very lucky to find love these days, unlike the past when it was so much easier.

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