The Biggest Lie about Age that Women Still Believe

The Biggest Lie about Age that Women Still Believe

The biggest lie about age
The biggest lie about age that women still believe is that men are not attracted to older women. That if you’re single and hit your 40s, 50s, 60s or 70s, it is next to impossible to get a great guy. For companionship, fun and real romance. Most of us fall prey to the biggest lie about age. And it can feel pretty awful. However, it’s just not true.

Women Need Better Dating Tools

It is just that women in that age group need better dating and relationship tools to make love work. When they have that kind of coaching, women of any age can overcome the biggest lie about age and create a beautiful love relationship!

A true first-person account by Brenda, a Client in her 60s.

“Several years ago, my cousin, Jonny, gave me a Mr. Wonderful doll for Christmas. I had no idea what a hit Mr. Wonderful was making around the country. He was a hunky male who, when his palm was pressed, uttered phrases like, “Let’s just cuddle tonight.” Or “Actually, I’m not sure which way to go. I’ll turn in here and ask for directions.” “Honey, why don’t you just relax and let me make dinner tonight” or “Can your mother stay another week?”

Funny, huh? Not really…obviously, I didn’t have a Mr. Wonderful nor was one coming any time soon. What’s wrong with just cuddling or asking for directions or making dinner? Forget the one about my mother staying for another week….even I would have to veto that! I felt like if I had a guy who came home and said, “Honey, you’ve been on my mind all day. That’s why I bought you these flowers.” I would be his adoring slave FOREVER!!! Of course, that would be after he brought me back to consciousness. But, as we know, men and women are just wired differently.

Love Mentoring and Brenda

Really? I have to say my Love Mentor has challenged me in a lot of ways. She’s told me that the biggest lie about age that women still believe is Bull! Perhaps, she’s right. Maybe, it’s not so much about being a male or a female of a certain biological age. Maybe, it’s more about finding the person who makes life a little easier, a little more fun, a little more meaningful. Finding the person who you can’t wait to share your piece of news with. Or the person who makes you feel completely content just sitting next to him. As you know I’m writing this in my 60s.

I’ve been independent for 16 years. Sometimes, happily so and sometimes, reluctantly. I don’t think that I ever lost that joy for life. The ability to wake up happy every morning and look forward to whatever the day brings. I don’t think being single made me think my life was terribly lacking in any way. But, doesn’t a great love bring us closer to our higher selves? When I was 18, I read Gibran. And his writing on Sorrow really stuck with me. In fact, it’s been my mantra for life, “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy it can contain.”
There has been great sorrow in my life, almost always followed by great joy. The yin and the yang. You just can’t have one without the other. And, so I’ve waited and waited for the great joy that follows the great sorrow.

The Biggest Lie About Age is Dispelled

Then, I met a man online and we started to go out on dates. He started saying things like…”Mmmm….you look so beautiful in the morning.” “You know, I think it’s really important that we talk about our relationship. Or “Tell me whatever you’re feeling. I believe in total honesty.” Can you imagine? Well, it’s for real. and he’s for real. OH MY GOD!!!! HE’S HERE!!! MR. WONDERFUL IS HERE!!!”

Thanks, Brenda, for this inspirational story! For another client story go here.

Dr. Diana Kirschner

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a relationship advice expert, frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show and the creator of a globally available dating coach and Love Mentor® program. Dr. Diana is also the best-selling author of the acclaimed best-selling relationship and dating book, “Love in 90 Days”. Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter.“Diana Kirschner’s work is life-changing, love-affirming and wonderfully effective.” ~Dr. Christiane Northrup, Internationally bestselling author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.

1 Comment

  1. Eli on October 20, 2013 at 6:22 pm

    I’m 60 and have met a shy guy 6 months ago. He is 48 yrs old. Our relationship is slow but we chat a lot on the phone. I see him only once or twice a week and not on weekends. I have not met any of his family and nor he mine. We have xtreme electric chemicals between us and dont know if he have a problem about our age diff. I take it slow and wish it will grow between us as I start feeling more fond of him by the day.
    He comes out of his shell more and make jokes. Always a big smile on his face when we meet and when he looks at me it is so sweet to see.
    Happy me !!



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