Here’s a guest blog from Jim Delpino, our most senior relationship coach for women over 40.
How Love Mentoring can change Your Life.
None of us comes into the world with the knowledge and skills to achieve the goals that we will set for ourselves in life. Our first mentors and coaches are our own parents and family. After this comes a wave of people from ministers, coaches, teachers and mentors. All of these folks can potentially reach us at the deepest levels and profoundly effect the way we look at, understand and proceed with life. We are born wired to accept certain inputs for us to grow and achieve our dreams and goals. We all wish to meet people who will make us better, no matter the goal. That’s why a relationship coach for women over 40 can be so vital.
The Power of a Relationship Coach for Women Over 40
Women in particular have been helped enormously in every walk of life by having mentors. Studies show that without a coach we have only 10% of the chance of reaching our goals as does someone who has a mentor. Coaches and mentors are available to help with: money (Do you have a financial adviser?); fitness (Do you have a trainer?); career (Do you have a mentor at work); spirituality (Do you have a minister, rabbi or spiritual teacher?); and, love relationships (Do you have a relationship coach for women over 40?).
In love relationships, people are more likely to repeat their dysfunctional patterns than they are to change. This is especially true as we get older. Pride and stubbornness along with fear and lack of knowledge can work together to sabotage success. Thus we have the saying, “Old Habits die hard.” With enough failure, many women give up hope and stop trying to achieve lasting love. This is where a relationship coach for women over 40 becomes necessary.
A relationship coach for women over 40 focuses on three inputs:
They are: limit setting; nurturing; and sharing knowledge and experience. These are the same inputs we are wired to look for from our parents and caretakers. Let’s look at how a relationship coach for women over 40 provides these inputs.
Setting Limits on Self-Sabotage
Limit setting is a key input in the learning and growth process. So many of us do things which actually make failure and lack of achievement a high probability. A good mentor will know which behaviors and actions are contributing to your failed relationships. More importantly, she can show you how to change your self-sabotaging behaviors.
Nurturing and Support
Most people might think that support is the most important ingredient in successful coaching. Surprisingly, it’s not. While, we all need nurturing and support, we also need knowledge and limit-setting. Especially, when it comes to finding true love. In love relationships, a mentor’s support provides a certain kind of energy that embodies her belief that you can someday reach the goal of finding love. So, a relationship coach for women over 40 who provides both discipline and nurturing has a better chance of succeeding with you than a coach who offers only support.
Providing Cutting-Edge Information
The third and last input of Dr. Diana’s Love Mentoring Program is about providing knowledge and information about relationships that is based on research and experience. Many dating coaches lack that specialized knowledge and/or are single themselves and not in committed relationships. If you have a goal of becoming an excellent love partner, stick with a coach who can “walk the talk”. For example, Dr. Diana’s Love Mentors are in committed relationships. And they have been trained by her. In short, having a relationship coach for women over 40 who provides you with all three basic human inputs greatly enhances the chance that you will find true love. I know. Because it worked for me.
Thank you Jim for your wise words! And to check out additional posts written by our expert coaches.