What are your beliefs about love, men and dating?
Chances are something at least a little bit negative popped up.
Any of these sound familiar?
There are no good men left.
I won’t find love because I’m too______.
Love is difficult.
Relationships don’t last.
All men are jerks and commitmentphobes.
Dating is an awful process.
There’s no one who is good enough for me.
And so on…
Beliefs underlie and shape our experience, our perceptions of reality, our moods and emotions, and everything we say and do. Psychologists point out that we are aware of many of our beliefs, but others lurk just underneath the surface of our minds. It’s these hidden beliefs that tend to shape the most important parts of our lives, without us being truly aware that they are doing so.
When it comes to relationships, if you have limiting beliefs based on fear, scarcity, abuse, past disappointments, and loss, they make up a force that can put up a complete roadblock on your love journey. These include negative, false, and delimiting beliefs about men, love, or intimate relationships. I call these the silent relationship killers.
If you want to create a satisfying, true love relationship, it’s crucial that you get clear about what your silent relationship killers are and develop an action plan to change them.
I recently did an interview with the Thriving Launch podcast about what gets in the way of finding love. In it, you’ll get some great insights into managing your killer beliefs, where to go to meet ideal men or women, the best way to approach online dating, and more.