Tired of Dating: What to Do When You Just Want to Say the F Word to Dating!
Have you lost all hope of meeting the One?
Tired of dating? Tired of guys behaving badly, of guys who don’t look like their profile photo, of disappointing dates, of the ones who disappear on you?
You may be resigning yourself to being single. Or you’re even considering reaching deep into your savings and hiring a matchmaker. But then you figure you’ll just put more focus on your career or job. On the upside, you have total freedom to do what you want. And you’ll never have to share a closet. You’re thinking, “I don’t NEED a man. I’ll be fine on my own.”
I get it.
And while I believe you can create an amazing life without a beloved partner, I know that deep down… you really do want to be with someone.
So here are four tips that you need to do when’re tired of dating and want to say F#&k dating.
Tired of Dating: Tip 1. Make it all fun.
Often when we are tired of dating, it’s because we’re taking things too seriously and getting attached to an outcome. Don’t go into every date hoping that man was your potential husband. If so, you’re bound to feel disappointed if he doesn’t measure up to that picture. And that adds tons more pressure to the date. Just relax and enjoy the process.
Apply this attitude to all areas of your life. The more fun you have in general and the more you do things to please yourself, the more ideal men you’ll attract. So, choose something right now that you know would make you ecstatic and do it. Maybe it’s taking that trip you’ve been dreaming about; treating yourself to a massage; or splurging on a new pair of shoes.
Tired of Dating: Tip 2. Commit to the process.
The reality is you have to stay in the game. Even if you are tired of dating, you cannot go on an occasional date and say you’re really trying. I often say that women should treat dating like they would a job search. If you wanted a new job, you’d keep going to interviews and keep networking until you found the right one. Some interviews might go horribly, some positions just wouldn’t be a good fit. You expect not to get every job. But you’d keep at it knowing there’s no ifs, ands, or buts. You will find a new job.
And if it wasn’t working out, you’d ask for help. You’d enlist a mentor or friend for help with your interviewing skills and your resume.
Tired of Dating: Tip 3. Consider your blind spots.
It’s often said that you can’t solve a problem with the same kind of thinking you used to create it. And it’s true! The reality is, you’re a smart, successful woman who gets results in your life. If you knew there was something you could do to get off this merry-go-round of dead-end dating and meet your true equal, you’d do it. So, I invite you to consider that there may be something you don’t know that you don’t know and that something is keeping you from the One. We all have blind spots which keep us stuck. The way to get around them is to get support from someone who has some expertise. Perhaps, a friend or mentor who was once in your shoes. And is now happily married.
I also want to help you in a more hands-on way. That’s why I’m offering you a complimentary private session with one of my expert dating and relationship coaches. For over 40 minutes, you’ll do one-on-one work with your Love Mentor® to break free of what’s holding you back from the One.
Tired of Dating: Tip 4. Stay open to the possibilities.
Remember that love often comes in surprise packages. Often times, when you’re tired of dating, it’s because you’re stuck in a pattern of dating a certain type. If you’re tired of dating guys who make their work their biggest priority, try dating someone who doesn’t dream of being the next Warren Buffet. If the artsy guys keep flaking, try dating someone who has a more cerebral job. if you keep ending up with guys who freak out about intimacy, try dating someone who is a bit more available and affectionate.
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Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a relationship advice expert, frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show and the creator of a globally available dating coach and Love Mentor® program. Dr. Diana is also the best-selling author of the acclaimed best-selling relationship and dating book, “Love in 90 Days”. Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter.
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