The Guy Who Broke My Heart Is Still Contacting Me

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He Broke My Heart and Still Texts Me

Have you ever wondered? Why is the guy who broke my heart still contacting me? Should I get back with him?

How could he disappear after he was so totally into me? Why hasn’t he texted? Why does he pull away every time we get close? Was it just about the sex? How could he not be interested in me? Why doesn’t he make a move? Will he ever commit? What the bleep is going on in this relationship? Is it him or is it me? Ah, men. Mystifying men.


Dating Games Men Play: He Broke My Heart and Still Texts

Fortunately, I’ve logged many therapy hours listening to men as they’ve opened up and explored their deepest needs and fears. The good news is that they, like us, usually really do want true love, and down deep they realize that they’d be happier, more content and more sexually satisfied if they had a good relationship. There are even situations where the chemistry is so good that you think you could be soulmates. Oh yeah, but he’s married.

The bad news is that even if they are single, they push real INTIMACY or COMMITMENT away. Some men fear being overwhelmed and taken over in an all-consuming relationship void of any video games, sporting events or nights out with the guys. Believe it or not, they also fear rejection and abandonment. And all these fears play out in a variety of ways. Men play out unconscious and conscious RELATIONSHIP GAMES (which I call Deadly Dating Patterns) that create a maddening push-pull with your heart. That’s why a man can break your heart and still try to contact you.

In my relationship advice book, Love in 90 Days, I devote a lot of time to getting inside the minds of men and their most common Commitment Issues. But, some of them are much more ingrained and difficult for the guy to overcome than others. Therefore, I rate the degree of difficulty of each pattern, based on my clinical experience, on a scale of 1 to 10; with 10 being the most challenging. For your benefit, I’ve divided the patterns into three groups: easier to overcome; moderately difficult; and most challenging. Stay away from that last group.

Now we have this question: He broke my heart and he still calls me? See what Dr. Diana has to say.


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Dr. Diana Kirschner

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a relationship advice expert, frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show and the creator of a globally available dating coach and Love Mentor® program. Dr. Diana is also the best-selling author of the acclaimed best-selling relationship and dating book, “Love in 90 Days”. Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter.

“Diana Kirschner’s work is life-changing, love-affirming and wonderfully effective.”
~Dr. Christiane Northrup, Internationally bestselling author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.

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