How to Jump Start the Stalled Love Engine in Your Relationship

how to jump start the stalled love engine in your relationship

Are you wondering how to jump start the stalled love engine in your relationship? Has your sexual routine settled into a boring and predictable autopilot loop? You know what I’m talking about.

How to Jump Start the Stalled Love Engine in Your Relationship: What would it be like to have an affair with your Partner?

The key to creating a torrid affair with your partner is to ask yourself ONE KEY QUESTION:

“What would I be thinking, doing, or saying right now if WE were having an affair?”

If you were having an affair, you would be in your juiciest identity. You would be thinking about what you would like to do in bed with your new hottie. Putting on some flimsy lingerie, maybe a push-up bra, or FMP shoes.  If you’re a guy, you would put on those tight Calvin Klein’s and a little aftershave, the kind she likes. You would be hungering for your hottie’s touch. You would think of a sexy locale for a date, like a deserted beach, a hotel room, or a little Italian restaurant.


Right? So I want you to transfer these thoughts, feelings, and acts over to your partner. Just for a few minutes at first. Take off the old sweats and put on a sexy nightgown and meet your husband at the door of your bedroom as if he were your new lover.  If you are a guy, instead of dragging yourself in the front door beat and tired after work, imagine you are meeting your wife at a secluded hotel room for a hot tryst. Or, just share minor acts of chemistry. Use the Taking Touch technique with your Beloved and follow where your fingertips want to go. These sexy behaviors will take you to hot and yummy places.

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How to Jump Start the Stalled Love Engine in Your Relationship: Bring the Feeling of Forbidden Fruit to your Couple

Begin by making a new and different kind of tryst where you bring your saucy freshness and that yummy affair-like feeling of forbidden fruit to your Beloved. That’s how we’ve taught couples how to jump start the stalled love engine in their relationship.

Then, when you make your encounter alive and electric like this, it usually changes everything. Both of you can become your sizzling Diamond Selves. So get your creative juices flowing literally and figuratively. Allow pleasure to flow and fill you, and you will arouse your Beloved more and more. The passion and intimacy of having a tryst together is mind-blowing—you can have even more ecstasy because, you are doing things that are smoking hot with someone you know and feel safe with. Much better than meeting with a stranger who is a fantasy figure. A stranger with whom you can’t really be open or trusting. And that’s how you will get things hot between you.


How to Jump Start the Stalled Love Engine in Your Relationship: Fantasy in a Couple vs. Fantasy with a Stranger

Fantasies almost never materialize in reality. In other words, fantasy is fantasy. Not reality. When sexual fantasies are divorced from reality, that is, separate from your relationship, all kinds of bad things can happen. The sexual desire with your partner can often lessen, and for men who watch porn, they can develop problems getting erections and/or reaching orgasm. In fact, if this situation fits your man, just have him do an Internet search on the impact of porn on sexual performance.


Oh yeah, I forgot to mention affairs as a product of sexual fantasy—and I mean the kind of affairs that destroy relationships.

In contrast, having an affair with your own partner is like having your cake and eating it too. So why not have it all?

Of course having a hot tryst with your partner is easier to accomplish for some couples than others. Maybe you really don’t know how to jump start the stalled love engine in your relationship. Or your partner may be less than instantly responsive. So let me help you right now. I will buy you a free session with one of my expert relationship coaches. This one meeting can change your love life around.


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