How to Feel Self-Confident & Irresistibly Attractive
Here’s another case study that will help you develop a more self-confident you no matter what your age.
Dania from New York Asks: How Do I Feel Self-Confident in My 50s?
“Dr. D, I am in my 50s and feeling it. Aches, pains, and a dreary outlook. Not to mention jowls and wrinkles growing at an enormously fast rate, every time I look in the mirror. Needless to say, this is not conducive to starting online dating. Which is what all my best friends are urging me to do. How can I get more self-confident at this age?” Dania in New York
Dania, first of all I want you to know that the Body Love Diamond Self work has helped thousands of women in their 50s and 60s and beyond to become more self-confident!
In fact, one of my current new dating coaches got married, herself, for the first time at age 65.
Two Solid Tips to Help you Become More Self-Confident:
Tip #1: Not all older guys want young chicks. In fact most of them don’t.
Younger women often come complete with sexual performance demands, wanting kids and preferring a more active night life. Meanwhile guys in their 50s and beyond can be struggling with ED issues. They are often completely done with having children. And they really want a more settled companion who will watch a bit of TV, hold hands and make out with them!
Tip #2: Your body image is based on the neural nets, or brain activity associated with it, and that activity is in constant state of flux!
As I show in my latest book, The Diamond Self Secret, there is no set image of yourself that is a stable structure sitting in your brain. In fact, you can deliberately modify your identity and the image you have of your body.
Instead of being critical and down on yourself about your age or your weight, you can find and create a self-confident image that gets you in touch with your vitality, your energy, and the amazing youth that your body has available to it right now. Yes—right now. What we think about ourselves has a huge impact on how our body functions. If you use what I call a Diamond Self identity, (a deliberate and loving self-image) that is youthful, our bodies function better and become younger! It can be as easy as giving yourself a fun, validating nickname.
Anissa Changes Her Body Image and Becomes More Self-Confident
In fact, Anissa, one of the clients in our Love Mentoring program created a Body Love Diamond Self nickname, Saucy Minx. And she bought a few Victoria’s Secret goodies to go along with that name. Here’s what Anissa has to say, “Thinking about being the Saucy Minx as I put on my new lingerie and get ready for a date changes how I feel about myself. It makes me feel and act like I am did in my twenties and it is soooo much fun!”
So, Dania, I want you to consider giving yourself a playful Body Love Diamond Self nickname, using words like:
Young, playful, fun, alive, 20-something, youthful, blossoming, sweet, pretty, adorable, darling, silly, flexible, dewy, innocent cherub
Have fun with this!!! Even if you feel ridiculous with some of the words, play around with them and see if they speak to you. Once you have your nickname, do a little shopping and dress the part. You will quickly become more self-confident.
Chances are you will find yourself dating like a teenager all over again, but with the self-confident wisdom of your years. Read about The women who are your age in our Love Mentoring program are having a ball with dating. And they’re feeling like the Prom Queens they never were! So can You! For more dating advice check out our series on Dating Advice for Over 50s.
As a relationship expert, I've helped thousands of women get the love they want - even when it seemed impossible. I’m Dr. Diana Kirschner. You might know me from my PBS Special, seen me on Oprah, or have read one of my bestselling books.
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Dr. Diana Kirschner
Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a relationship advice expert, frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show and the creator of a globally available dating coach and Love Mentor® program. Dr. Diana is also the best-selling author of the acclaimed best-selling relationship and dating book, “Love in 90 Days”. Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter.
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