How to Date a Man with Kids: Five Proven Hacks

how to date a man with kids
Chances are you may find yourself dating a single dad. If so, you’re probably wondering how to date a man with kids? Successfully. Especially, if you don’t have any yourself. 
Often, a man with kids, who is looking for a long-term relationship will take things slower. Be patient. He isn’t going to introduce you from day one! A good dad will be protective of his children. And that’s what you want!

So be flexible. One of the hardest parts of learning how to date a man with kids is that his children are his highest priority. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t have space in his heart to love you, it’s just that he won’t be able to drop everything for a romantic getaway or spend endless hours on the phone with you.

Ask him about his kids. You’re probably already doing this, but I didn’t want to skip over it. A single dad who has long-term relationship potential will want to tell you about his kids. Make an effort to get to know about them before you meet them.

Be sure to validate how wonderful his kids are, even if he complains about them. He may say negative things, but it’s not okay for you to say negative things about them. Be positive and accepting about them. Here then are five proven hacks that will help you learn and succeed at dating a single dad.

How to Date a Man with Kids: Hack #1

When the time comes to meet the kids, be ready with a thoughtful gift. Come in to meeting them full of appreciation and thoughtful presence. Give them something small that shows you already know a bit about them.

How to Date a Man with Kids: Hack #2

Don’t make any suggestions about parenting the kids until you’re married to this guy! Leave all that to him.

How to Date a Man with Kids: Hack #3

Don’t discipline his kids. As the relationship grows and you spend more time with the kids, you want to position yourself as the more accepting, loving one and (hopefully) he’ll be the disciplinarian. All too often, I’ve seen women try step into the role of a second parent by telling the kids what they should and shouldn’t do. Often they’re just trying to be helpful, but it backfires with the kids.

How to Date a Man with Kids: Hack #4

Make sure you’re validating, encouraging and appreciative to both the children and the children’s mother. You don’t ever want to enter the role of the wicked stepmother. Instead bring love and more possibilities for joy to the whole family.

How to Date a Man with Kids: Hack #5

When you are dating a man with kids, if his ex is making his life hell, be a great sounding board and give him lots of empathy.

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