Best Five Tips for Coping with a Breakup

coping with a breakup

Coping with a Breakup

Coping with a breakup is a true challenge.  Especially if you try to do it alone. Divorce or separation after a long relationship is the number two top life stressor following right behind being widowed. A severe loss can plunge you into depression and health problems.  So do not let yourself go for several months without taking steps to recover.

A UCLA study showed that being rejected activates one of the same areas of the brain as physical pain!  The more ignored the people felt, the more activity they had in the anterior cingulate, which also registers physical distress. In other words, your pain is physiological. But research has also shown that there are proven ways for coping with a breakup so that you can recover from loss more quickly.


Now, here are five tips for coping with a breakup that have helped many people turn this painful time into a whole new rebirth for themselves!

Coping with a Breakup Tip 1. Spend Time with Close Friends

The same UCLA researchers found that spending time and sharing with close friends and offset the pain by causing the brain to release natural opioids, which are like the painkillers found in opium.

Coping with a Breakup Tip 2. Use Anger As Fuel To Better Yourself

If you are feeling angry, channel it into kick boxing, lifting weights or cardio.  Exercise lifts your mood and youths your body. You will de-stress, find more peace and sleep better! Give yourself a makeover. Initially thinking about how sorry your ex will be when he or she sees how fantastic you have become can be fuel for your rebirth.   Make yourself more attractive and better inside and out.

Coping with a Breakup Tip 3. Have A ‘New You’ Party

Invite your friends to come over for a ‘New You’ party where they help give you a makeover.  Let them go through your clothes and accessories, getting rid of unflattering stuff and putting together some hot looks for the new you.  Ask them for referrals to great hair salons or clothing shops. Find a look that makes you feel great.  You can also have a big reveal party for yourself.

Coping with a Breakup Tip 4. Get Out There and Date Off- & Online

Start as soon as possible, even if you don’t feel like it.  The sooner you do, the sooner you’ll move on.  At this moment your chances of meeting the love of your life could be better than ever!  The average marriage now lasts under seven years and this means new singles are coming on the scene all the time. Around sixteen million people are now using online dating. You don’t need to worry about getting into a rebound relationship: new research shows that people marrying on the rebound are no more likely to fail than those who wait. Not to worry if you are older:  The American Association of Retired Persons found in a recent survey that 70 percent of single baby boomers are actively dating.

Coping with a Breakup Tip 5. Meditation and Relaxation

Johns Hopkins researchers recommend practicing relaxation techniques to get rid of heartache. These include meditation, deep breathing or journaling out your feelings.  So be sure to practice any or all of these techniques and you will bounce back from loss more rapidly. In fact, it’s best to create a daily practice where you commune with a Power greater than yourself.



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  1. Nick on January 2, 2010 at 2:22 am

    Thanks Diana, I hope this works for me…but I feel positive after reading this article.

  2. Mary on April 24, 2010 at 2:53 pm

    This website write-up presented me a whole load of ideas, thanks for sharing

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