The New Cougars

Dating Advice for Women Series

Welcome to the era of the new cougars. The census data tells us that only 1% of all marriages in 2008 were cougar marriages, that is, between a woman who was 10-14 years older than her husband—while only 2.6%  of the brides were 6 to 9 years older.  But even though these weddings are rare, the concept of the “the cougar,” an older woman who dates or marries a younger guy, is creating new possibilities in dating. In this Demi-Ashton era, many 40+ women have happily broadened their matches to include younger men.

new cougarsBut according to a survey of 100 self-proclaimed new cougars the rules have changed.  The old stereotype of the man-eater woman, a la Stifler’s mom from ‘American Pie,’ no longer applies.  These days it is not about a sugar mama having a no-strings-attached fling. It’s about finding a new form of true love.

More than 90% of these new cougars say they want a long-term relationship with a younger man. They expect the guy to pay his way—to cover dinner or split the check.  These women want  the full experience of dating someone who is romantic, chivalrous and, best of all,  relatively free of the emotional baggage of past relationships.  52% of the cougars in the study were in their 40s and their ideal guy is aged 24-27.  45% were ‘lifestyle’ new cougars who have dated more than five younger men.

Over-40 women don’t mind being called new cougars but they are redefining the definition of cougar dating.  They know what they want in relationships and are opening doors to new possibilities for themselves.  Go to for the new cougar survey for more details.

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Dr. Diana

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3 Comments

  1. thatflash on December 3, 2009 at 11:23 am

    Great read, Ill come back



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