Dating Hacks for Shy Women

dating hacks for shy women

Dating advice expert, Dr. Diana Kirschner, assisted by blogger pup, Madison, teaches you simple yet powerful dating hacks for shy women. Be sure to watch the video below.

After a great app and text romance, and a few one hour soul-to-soul phone sessions, it is time to meet at the local Italian place.  When you look in the mirror nothing seems right. So you notice the bulges around your thighs and the gap between your front teeth. What are you going to talk about on that first date? In fact, you feel like you’re all the way back in high school.
And you know just how awkward things can get when you get tongue-tied or feel intimidated. Because there is nothing quite as intimidating as being shy on a first date with someone who seems like just the right match.

Seven Dating Hacks for Shy Women #1

If you are meeting your date in-person, make yourself beautiful or attractive IN YOUR OWN EYES (which are the eyes that really count).  So definitely, take your time to do this. And, make sure you dress down or up so you fit in and feel comfortable at the meeting place.

Seven Dating Hacks for Shy Women #2

Have topics ready to discuss around movies/TV shows, books, and news that you both may find interesting (nothing political especially NOW).

Seven Dating Hacks for Shy Women #3

To avoid seeming shy on the date, prepare your answers to the question, What have you been up to? DON’T SAY, “NOTHING.”

Seven Dating Hacks for Shy Women #4

When you get to your date, smile and give the person your full attention.   Notice very carefully what they are wearing and other details about your surroundings.  The cut of his shirt, the color of the molding on the walls, how the waiter is dressed, etc.  This will get your attention off yourself. Attention that is stuck on yourself is the whole basis for shyness!!

Seven Dating Hacks for Shy Women #5

Be sure to ask general, casual, open-ended questions like, How did your day go? What was it like where you grew up? How did you get interested in X (from profile)?   What drew you to my profile? In fact, pay attention and enjoy the sound of your date’s voice as he/she answers these questions.

Seven Dating Hacks for Shy Women #6

Avoid discussing old boyfriends or relationships. It’s the number one conversation killer on a first date. Don’t talk about marriage, kids or sex. Or discuss debt or health problems.

Seven Dating Hacks for Shy Women #7

7. At the end, if there was any connection at all, tell your date how much you enjoyed talking with him or her and that you would like to continue it sometime. In fact, if you’re a successful woman, this is a crucial step. Now enjoy the video.


But what if these dating hacks aren’t sufficient to get you going? Be sure then, to sign up for a session with one of my gifted dating and relationship experts. In fact, let me buy you a session so you can see how valuable this work can be for you.


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1 Comment

  1. James Smith on December 11, 2021 at 3:51 pm

    Really very helpfull. Thanks Dr. Diana Kirschner for sharing this with us.

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