Dating for Love: Eight Hacks

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Dating for love can be a beautiful and fulfilling journey that opens the door to a lifelong commitment and shared dreams.  It usually is both exciting and challenging!  But approaching it with authenticity, patience, and clarity can lead you to a marriage that is more amazing than you ever thought possible.  So then, here are 8 hacks to help you navigate the dating world with the ultimate goal of finding a great, loving partner with whom you can build a lasting, passionate love.

Dating for Love:  Hack #1  Know Yourself and Your Goals

Self-reflection is key!  Before diving into the dating scene, take some time for introspection. What are your core values?  Your vision for a fulfilled future?  What are your life goals?  What kind of person do you want to spend your life with?  Make a detailed list of the qualities you seek in a partner, as well as the deal-breakers that are important to you. Take your time with this.  Because, knowing yourself and your desires will focus your attention on like-minded matches who share your vision for the future.

Dating for Love:  Hack #2 Be Real

Authenticity is key in any good relationship. So please avoid putting on a façade or pretending to be someone you’re not just to impress others. Embrace and express your true self, share your interests, dreams, and vulnerabilities with potential partners. When you’re genuine, you foster a stronger connection and create a safe space for a partner to be their authentic self too.  But if this is hard for you use the Diamond Self work in this article to help you get in touch with and name your ideal self –what we call your Diamond Goddess identity!

Dating for Love:  Hack #3 Practice Effective Communication

Clear communication is the bedrock for a healthy and successful relationship and marriage. Listen actively to your date, show interest in their thoughts, and be open about your own feelings and intentions.  Practice straight talk, ie, honest, clear and transparent communication that fosters trust and understanding.  This is especially important when it comes to sharing what you really want and need in your heart of hearts.

Dating for Love:  Hack #4  Embrace Patience

Finding the right spouse might take time, and that’s perfectly okay. Don’t rush or settle for less than what you deserve. Embrace patience and stay determined in your pursuit of lasting love. Trust that the right person will come into your life at the right time.  In fact, my experiences with tens of thousands of women around the world, has shown that the Divine does not give us dreams we cannot fulfill.


Dating for Love:  Hack #5  Use Your Knowledge from Past Experiences

No matter how long they were, all previous relationships can provide valuable lessons– about what we want and need and about EXACTLY what we want to avoid. So I’d like you to reflect on past experiences, identify patterns, and learn from any mistakes made.  Be honest with yourself.  About what you did and what your partner did that did not work.  Let go of any emotional baggage that might hinder your future relationships. Every encounter, every match is an opportunity to grow and find  deeper understanding and clarity about what you truly need in a loving partner.


Dating for Love:  Hack #6 Know the Marrying Kind of Men

Research is very clear that men who tend to get married, view marriage favorably, tend to come from an intact family (parents are not divorced).  And they tend to attend religious services.  These are some of the important clues that will help you to not waste time on a man who is a commitment-phobe.  Read more about this here.


Dating for Love:  Hack #7  Build Friendship First

In fact, research shows that the best marriages are rooted in a strong friendship. So take the time to get to know your potential partner on a deeper level and build a solid friendship before diving into a romantic relationship. Shared interests, trust, mutual understanding, caring and respect create a strong base for a lifetime of love and companionship.  Throw in some chemistry and Voila!  You will have a passionate lasting marriage of your dreams.


Dating for Love:  Hack #8  Seek Support and Wisdom

Don’t hesitate to seek support and advice from friends, family, or a knowledgeable relationship coach. They can offer valuable insights and encouragement, helping you navigate the dating process more effectively.  Be sure to choose mentors who have happy marriages themselves, so that they know the road to success.  Our coaches have helped thousands of single women find the husband of their dreams.  And they walk their talk in terms of having great love relationships themselves.

In fact, I can see you succeeding right now, just using a few of these steps, my love!  So go for it intentionally—no need to suffer as you make your way to the love that meets the calling of your heart!  If you need more support, have a session with one of my amazing coaches.  It’s on me!  Simply fill out the little form on the right-hand column.→→ →

So these are 8 dating for love hacks that will lead you on a journey of self-discovery, genuine connections, and hopeful perseverance. Embrace your true self, communicate openly, and be patient in your search for lasting love. Remember that every experience, whether successful or not, contributes to your growth and prepares you for a fulfilling and loving marriage. Get support trust the process, and enjoy the adventure of finding your perfect match.



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  1. Mathijs Janssens on August 28, 2023 at 11:11 pm

    rioritize self-love and self-care. Building a strong foundation of self-worth and happiness will attract healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

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