Dating During the Coronavirus: Seven Opportunities
As the Netflix show (and the old saying) goes, love is blind! Which means that you can find true love by dating during the coronavirus outbreak. In spite of all the unknowns, lockdowns, fear and social distancing. And just maybe, because of it.
Dating during the coronavirus is thriving! There has been no change in the number of people downloading dating apps in the USA or globally. Bumble reported that usage had stayed steady and in line with seasonal trends. OkCupid has actually seen an increase in usage among younger daters in big cities like New York.
The good news is that guys are reaching out more because there is a desire for connection. Because they are working alone at home, cancelling all travel and other social plans. They feel very lonely and isolated. They know now more than ever that they need companionship and love. So, crisis equals opportunity!
In fact on many apps and sites, coronavirus has become one of the top icebreakers in initial messages to new matches. Social distancing is like being in a pod similar to what the contestants are placed into on the reality show Love is Blind. Couples are matched and meet without seeing each other. Two couples found true lasting love on that show! You can too!
Plus more people are now finding long distance love on the internet. They spend up to several months getting to know each other before arranging a trip to meet. (I’ve heard great stories of people from different countries meeting on Facebook or Dating sites — and the relationships actually end up working out!)
Here are seven great opportunities that you can take advantage of by dating during this strange time:
Dating During the Coronavirus Opportunity 1: You get to know new matches more quickly
This is a great time to get to know someone quickly—it is like being thrown into a life-raft together in the middle of a storm. Are they proactive? In denial about what is happening or super risk-takers? Are they germophobes? Caretakers? How do they respond to crisis? Making lemonade out of the pandemic lemons? Super worried or laughing about what is happening and sending you funny videos about toilet paper? You can get lots of info about your new matches right away.
Dating During the Coronavirus Opportunity 2: You can learn about how closely a guy truly matches with you
You now have a chance to quickly connect to new matches at a deeper level, rather than just on the level of appearance. You can get to know each other’s core personalities, whether you are both on the same wavelength, or have similar values, goals and styles of relating.
Use lots of virtual contact—talk and get to know each other via texts and calls. Be sure to Facetime, Skype or Zoom so you can get some visuals. Go on virtual dates.
Dating During the Coronavirus Opportunity 3: You weed out the players
Guys who just want a booty call will not hang in there as you date virtually. They are not really interested in getting to know you. If they sense you are not going to hook-up quickly they will move on. This is great for saving you from heartbreak.
Dating During the Coronavirus Opportunity 4: You can date 3 guys at the same time
I strongly advise women to date three men casually at the same time, with no sex. This enables you to get to know who really meets the calling of your heart. It also empowers you, where you feel more desirable and attractive. And it helps you avoid disappointment and heartbreak–when one guy falls away, you can turn to another one. Since you have more time in your schedule, because of not needing to commute, etc, you can more easily do the dating program of 3 and have lots of fun!
Dating During the Coronavirus Opportunity 5: Virtual Date Ideas
Have happy hour together on Skype or Zoom. Watch YouTube videos about your shared interests—for example, on the latest photos from Mars, keto-diet suggestions, workout fads, etc. and discuss the videos. Or watch a movie together as you video-chat about it. Play a multi-person online game. You can also cook a meal, or exercise while he does the same and video chat about it
Dating During the Coronavirus Opportunity 6: Safe in-person dating ideas
First, check with your government guidelines re being able to get together. There may be places where this is frowned upon. But, if you feel an exceptional connection and attraction meet for a short date only.
On the other hand, if you are older or have a health condition that puts you at greater risk, put off meeting in person until after the pandemic is over. You can still have the relationship unfold virtually in a great way.
Dating During the Coronavirus Opportunity 7: How to make a first date work out safely and well
Before you meet, ask, How are you feeling today? And let him know, I am feeling great! Do not meet face-to-face if either of you is not feeling great.
Do not go to his place or have him over to yours for a first date. This is too much too soon. It puts you at risk for contracting the virus, or having premature sex, or something worse if he is a bad egg! Instead go for a walk. When you first meet, do not hug. Just smile and blow some kisses his way. End the date the same way. If the chemistry is there it will still be there! Don’t be too physical, i.e., do not hold hands or kiss.
If you do go for some take-out food, take sanitizer, clean up an outside table and have a meal. Do not drink from the same glass or eat from the same plate.
Wash up after the date.
Dating during the coronavirus is a real opportunity. Now more than ever, singles are valuing connection and wanting love. You can take advantage of this big-time and start a great relationship in that meets the calling of your heart.
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I think this is great advice! A lot of romantic relationships have been hindered due to social distancing. I think it is awesome that you have provided some alternatives.
It seems that we should be grateful for the covid19 virus as it has made most people in the dating world go back to a more old fashioned way of dating, it is like you said in your article, people are taking the time to discover our core values more, it is almost like slow dating, a more healthy and sustainable environment where dating individuals are more concerned with the state and condition of the quality of daters, and the impact that a positive and more respectful approach is bringing to the online dating world, daters are not just goods to be had and then replaced but real people with real feelings, and some real kindness and care can make so much difference to the roots of a relationship, let us hope that this trend stays once the virus has been mastered and daters can meet up on a date in the outside world again.
Thanks for a fantastic article. It’s been really rough staying inside for months on end, I’m really itching to get back out into the dating scene.
All the best!