Building High Value Self-Confidence Over 40: The Most Powerful Hack I Know
In this post and video below I will show you how you can start building high value self-confidence over 40. Perhaps you’ve been through a broken marriage or two. Perhaps you’re a single mom struggling with children and career. By now, life has dealt you some blows that have hurt your self-esteem. In that case, it’s time for you to build high value self-confidence so you can live life to the fullest.
Building High Value Self-Confidence Over 40: The Diamond Self Process
The Diamond Self (DS) Process is the most powerful hack I know for building high value self-confidence for over 40s. It allows you to give yourself instructions about who you want to become. Precise instructions that help you create inner strength, self-love, feminine empowerment, and greater confidence in every area of your life. Because it is aimed at the internal world, your mind and spirit, the DS process brings you greater fulfillment without having to struggle so much with obstacles in the real world. It helps you create unconditional acceptance, love, and validation for yourself as an attractive woman. And true confidence.
The Diamond Self (DS) Process is a new approach for building high value self-confidence for over 40s. This simple but powerful hack allows you to give yourself instructions about who you want to become. Precise instructions that help you create inner strength, self-love, feminine empowerment, and greater confidence in every area of your life. Because it is aimed at the internal world, your mind and spirit, the DS process brings you greater fulfillment without having to struggle so much with obstacles in the real world. It helps you create unconditional acceptance, love, and validation for yourself as an attractive woman. And true confidence.
Building High Value Self-Confidence Over 40: Where I Came From
I can tell you that I have been 100 percent astonished at the life I’ve created using the DS approach. My childhood experiences worked against me—I was born as an unwanted fifth daughter to a family that only valued and wanted boys. I used to weep about my parents’ misfortune in being stuck with me, another crummy, useless girl. As a young child I experienced myself as a major disappointment, a person who did not deserve to be alive. I felt so worthless that I became so shy to the point of being mute. My father often called me a “piece of shit” during his angry alcoholic binges. He once said that he gave me life and he had the right to take it away from me.
None of this was my father’s fault. Because he grew up in extreme poverty and had an explosive and abusive mother himself. He truly did the best he could. But my early upbringing left me with a very negative sense of self, especially when it came to relating to men. As a teenager and young adult, I became so anxious around guys even those who showed an interest in me that I could hardly even speak to them.
Building High Value Self-Confidence Over 40: How I Did It
Today I can see that all this self-doubt around men, turned out to be a major gift. Because I have had to work on finding my feminine self-worth and I discovered the Diamond Self work. And my own special gifts and talents. My own self-confidence. My true lovable nature. The DS work has allowed me take a major step forward in every facet of living and enabled me to help millions of people. And it has helped me to find true love and create a passionate marriage with my soulmate.
I used the DS secrets I am about to teach you to overcome my self-doubt and write bestsellers on dating and relationships, create my own one-woman PBS TV special–which is now an Amazon Prime Special, Love in 90 Days. I’ve used the DS secrets to create an awesome team of Love Mentor® coaches who work by phone, Zoom and Skype to build high value self-confidence for over 40s all over the world.
As the Buddha says:
“There’s a treasury full of jade and jewels; it is in you. Don’t go searching far from home for it—it’s here.”
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Building High Value Self-Confidence Over 40: The Diamond Self Exercise Part 1
Here is the very powerful Diamond Self Exercise. I designed it to build high value self-confidence for 40+ women. In fact, I wanted to create greater deservedness, self-esteem, feminine confidence and self-love. If you suffer from self-doubt, worry, anxiety, or depression . . . if you have a judgmental inner critic . . . if you feel invisible, nervous, insecure, or less-than when it comes to dating or love, this is the most poerful hack I know for building high value self-confidence over 40.
Read each Section of the Diamond Self Exercise.
Then close your eyes, taking your time to do each step.
Remember a time when you felt good about yourself—alive, attractive, smart, passionate, confident, loving—lovable. Put yourself in the picture so that you are looking through your own eyes. If you can’t remember a time like this, imagine a scene where you would feel good about yourself. Feel that completely.
Imagine yourself better, even better. Imagine yourself five times better.
Building High Value Self-Confidence Over 40: The Diamond Self Exercise Part 2
Now take that image and bring it closer to you. Make it brighter, more colorful, clearer. Give it a sound track, a great sound track, magnify all those good feelings—make them stronger. This is your Diamond Self. Give it a name, a grand name. Here are some examples to get you going:
Deserving Radiant Goddess of Love
Saucy Smart Minx
Beloved Mighty Isis
Happy and Fearless Light of Love
Joyful Chosen Magnificent Jewel
Sparkling Confident Queen of Love and Light
Playful Precious Mesmerizing Lioness
Sparkalicious Loving One
Play with any Names that Come to You for a Minute or Two.
Then say your Diamond Self name to yourself. Note: You can always work on or expand it later.
Building High Value Self-Confidence Over 40: The Diamond Self Exercise Part3
First, shrink the Diamond Self, make it tiny, as small as a real diamond. Then put that image aside.
Third, find a different image at a time when you felt self-doubt or rejected, abandoned, betrayed or unlovable. An image that reflects negative self-talk, like It’s hopeless for me, or I’m too fat, too invisible, or too intimidating. We’ll call this your Disappointing Self.
Take the image of your Diamond Self, make it the size of a hand grenade, and imagine throwing it right into the center of your Disappointing Self. Imagine it exploding and completely destroying the Disappointing Self.
Now, instant replay. Imagine your self-doubt-laden Disappointing Self and throw the Diamond Self grenade into the center, blowing up the Disappointing Self again.
Finally, speed the whole thing up and repeat several more times.
Do this exercise until you cannot get a clear image of the Disappointing Self. Do a quick version of this process whenever you go to an important social event, a date or any time you need to build high-value self-confidence!
Building High Value Self-Confidence Over 40: Find a Self-Doubt-Busting Diamond Self Name That is Just Right for You
Here’s how to know if a Diamond Self name is “right” for you: When you think or say it, you will feel excited, happy, even thrilled—but also, perhaps a little scared, embarrassed, ashamed, or silly. This is because you are stretching yourself. In fact, a true transformative Diamond Self nickname will call to you. In spite of some uncomfortable reactions, it feels good. And when you think or say it, your new nickname has a fun, joyful quality. Your Diamond Self name is so critical to the speed and success of your journey to full self-confidence in dating and love relationships.
Now that you have your Diamond Self name it is time to go shopping and dress “Lovely Irresistible Dancer,” or whoever has emerged as your unique new you. Pull a new look together by thinking about your validating name. Buy sexy lingerie and clothes that are in alignment with your new feminine self. Get a trendy haircut that frames and showcases the beauty in that face you see in the mirror. Find jewelry that symbolizes her radiant, lively, confident, magnetic and loving nature. As Jess Scott says, “The human body is the best work of art.”
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Building High Value Self-Confidence Over 40: Other Resources
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