12 Signs He Will Eventually Commit

signs he eventually will commit

Are you wondering , What are the signs he will eventually commit? Perhaps you’ve met the One only to see him come on like gangbusters, but then pull back for no apparent reason. So that all of a sudden, everything becomes murky and uncertain in terms of your relationship.  Are you a couple or not?  Has he met someone else?  Why is he running hot and cold?  Do you have a future together?  Should you have “the talk” about where things stand?  And you wonder, are there definite signs that reveal he will eventually commit?

Maybe you tend to be involved with a guy for a few months and then he always falls away mysteriously, leaving you alone.  Maybe you have been with a guy for 10 years who brings over the chicken soup when you are sick, is there whenever you need him, yet is completely unavailable for building a lasting relationship or family.  Or maybe you are in a long term on-again, off-again relationship where one or the other of you periodically withdraws or sees other people.

Have you ever been involved and in love with one man for months, or even years, only to find that he simply cannot or will not take that next step into living together or marriage? Instead, he gets irritated, distant, angry or simply hits the highway if there is any talk of sharing a future together?  Let’s first look at the telling signs that show he probably won’t commit:

Typical Sequence of Signs He Will Eventually (NOT) Commit

1) Meet guy.

2) Guy comes on strong, with loving words, deeds, gifts. 

3) You decide he is different, the real deal.

4)  Things get even better inside and outside the bedroom.

5) You start planning for a future with him.

6) Guy retreats, acts distant or annoyed.

7) You are frightened and try harder.

8) Guy tells you he does not have the time or energy or is not be ready for a relationship.

9) You are caught in a maze of unanswered questions, anxiety, heartbreak and sad desperate feelings.

Yes, I know, it’s a downer, but you might feel better knowing that variations of this story have happened to me and pretty much every woman I know.  You are definitely not alone.  We have all been there.  Yet, there is a definite path to freeing yourself from all these painful patterns, from the guys who turn out to be jerks and need to be cut free.


So here are 12 signs he eventually will commit.  They will help reveal if you are dealing with a forever soulmate or not!

Signs He Will Eventually Commit #1

He comes from an intact family where both of his parents are together.  This factor has been shown to be important in terms of a man’s ability to marry or make a lifelong commitment.

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #2

He has a religious or spiritual practice.  Once again—research bears out that he is more likely to commit.

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #3

He makes positive statements about marriage and relationships! Obviously, if he views relationships as unsatisfying and soul-sucking, he will not be eager to commit to you.

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #4

There is  regular, consistent contact him that gets better over time.  This includes texts, calls, dates and, as the relationship progresses extended periods of time or  trips taken together as a couple.

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #5

You have chemistry with him. While it doesn’t have to be insane off the charts electricity, there has to be some sexy vibes between you that lead to satisfying sex on both sides

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #6

He wants to be exclusive.  He will want to stop seeing other women as he falls more deeply in love with you.

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #7

He is growing more attentive to your needs, thoughts and feelings. As it becomes clear to him that you are the One, he will be courting  and pleasing you more.

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #8

He wants you to: (a) sleep over; or (b) leave some of your things at his apartment.  This shows that he wants you in his daily life. That you are not just a booty call.

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #9

He is becoming more open to sharing his real thoughts and  feelings.  This could even include sharing his fears about love (which is a good sign—if not protracted!)

Signs He Will Eventually Commit #10

You feel  grounded enough to be able to be yourself with him.  This means he is supplying enough constancy and presence in the relationship that you are not anxious or being a false self  around him.

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #11

You find yourself continually surprised at how he fills your needs to be understood, appreciated, romanced, and celebrated for who you are. Creativity and devotion  in love leads to a deepened understanding and fulfillment of your needs!

Signs He Will Eventually Commit  #12

There is at talk of a future together.  And he seems more and more  into your shared future (rather than less into it!)  as time goes on.

While it is not necessary to have all of these 12 signs that your boyfriend will eventually commit, it is best if you have at least 8 of them. The overall trend is that the relationship is getting better. In fact, you are getting closer, understanding each other better, more devoted to each other, and sharing more time and space in a happy way.  Even though there are disappointments and fights, you tend to come together and work things through.  You can have straight honest talk with your boyfriend, where both of you are clear and you can come to a win-win understanding with each other.  Most importantly, when you step back and look at the relationship you see that over the months it has gotten better and better.


If you are not seeing  the signs that your boyfriend will eventually commit, take action to either help him step up or cut loose and stop wasting your precious time.  There are lots of great guys out there who will commit to an amazing future with you!  If you need support,  don’t suffer. Take advantage of a free Breakthrough coaching session now.  xoxo


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