A few days ago I was privileged to be on a live Wall Street Journal broadcast looking at what love, marriage and relationships will look like in the decades ahead.
The broadcast is part of the celebration of The Wall Street Journal’s 125th Anniversary. Participating in the interactive video interview was Elizabeth Bernstein, columnist of the Personal Journal section of the Wall Street Journal. It was great to see my good friend, the wonderful writer, Helen Fisher, who is a professor of Biological Anthropology at Rutgers University. Last but not least on the panel was Paul Hokemeyer who is a Marriage and Family Therapist.
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On the videocast, we talked about whether passionate love can last for decades. Hint: YES. Many scientific studies including fMRI studies of the brain have shown that long-term relationships can show the same passion as newlyweds. We also answered questions about how texting can hurt or help a relationship and how to deal with the crisis of cheating. I teed up a conversation on how there is and will be an increasing interest in spirituality and how that can help love relationships. I’d really like to hear from you all on that topic!
It was a blast making this video for the Wall Street Journal, especially because Helen Fisher is the leading researcher on love in the world today! She talked about how the brain functions in a great love relationship. The brain shows more empathy, and more focus on what is right with your partner rather than what is wrong.
Paul talked about how a relationship has a narrative, a story in our heads that tells us all about the beginning, middle and end. The good news is that we can pay attention to the fear-based thinking in our stories and deliberately change them to be more loving and loved.
Finally, we addressed a question about whether people will eventually be able to take an oxytocin pill or hormone to make someone fall in love. You’ll have to watch the vid for the answer to that one! I’ve also posted the broadcast on my facebook page: Dating to True Love Mentor. Please join the many folks who have already commented.
Sending you love