Today’s blog is written by one of our expert Love Mentors®, Tamara Green, LCSW. Tamara is happily married with kids and has been a psychotherapist for many years. In this very personal essay she shows how a simple spiritual practice helped her overcome a very serious medical problem. For more on the value of intention, meditation, prayer and other important tools in helping your love life and healing from heartbreak, make sure to sign up for my free Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter.
It was dark outside, one of those bone-chilling 17 degree grey days. It was 11 days before Christmas and I was headed into Lawrence Hospital in Bronxville, NY. Most of New York was still asleep as I walked into the ambulatory care unit to have a procedure done called a sigmoidoscopy. This was a familiar place to be, for it was at this hospital in 2009 where my surgeon removed from my body about seven pre-cancerous spots the size of lentils.
The reason why I was back again on this day was because my regular gastroenterologist was recommending that I have a follow-up “sigmoid” to make sure everything was still fine after the surgery. I expected that all would be well, but the news that I received was not what I wanted to hear. My doctor showed me the photo of another tumor, this time about the size of a raisin. After getting dressed and being told that I had to visit the surgeon again as soon as possible, I drove home feeling dejected. I was scared and overwhelmed; my mood plummeted. Sitting alone in my living room, these words swam around in my head: “I can’t believe it’s happening again”; “I’ll have to have another painful surgery”; “Is it cancer?” The more I focused on these thoughts the more upset and disappointed I became.
Then, like a bolt of lightning it hit me. I suddenly realized what I was doing. My mind was stewing in fear and spiraling into more and more negativity. I instantly shot up out of my chair and decided to take charge of the situation. I was going to do exactly what I would tell anyone else to do if they were seeking my advice. With pen and paper in hand, I wrote the following words: “I AM HAPPY AND GRATEFUL THAT I AM HEALING NOW”.
Through all my years of study and self-exploration about the human mind and emotions, I know that where I put my focus is what I tend to experience. So, I decided that I was going to again practice what I have preached for years to my psychotherapy and Love Mentoring clients. I decided to set an intention for healing myself, without medical intervention.
Intentions are goal-oriented statements expressed in present time. When said over and over, they are powerful and life transforming. I say them like a mantra, until I have no doubts that what I am saying will manifest as reality. My intention was, “I am happy and grateful that I am healing now.” When I practiced this affirmation I felt happy with a deep sense of gratitude.
For the first week, I caught myself worrying or engaged in some negative self-talk about my medical situation. With deliberate practice, I learned to notice the worries and doubts, let them go, and repeat my affirmation. Then one day I realized that I had zero attention on my health issue. I had let it go completely. My mind and body were at peace. As a result of having no mental conflicts with my intention, the actual steps necessary for me to achieve healing became clear: healing meditations, improving my diet, sessions with my energy healer, shots of organic wheat juice, and visualizing the outcome I preferred.
Fast forward one month and I’m sitting in the surgeon’s office waiting to be seen. The very thing that I’d set my intention on was realized: the perplexed surgeon announced, “I don’t see anything. I know you have a photo that shows you have something there, but it’s not there any more.” And that, on this miraculous day, is exactly what happened!
Thank you, Tamara, for sharing this personal story. And, if you would like a free 40-minute session with an expert dating coach like Tamara, be sure to contact me.
Wishing you love,