Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries ‘ celebrity marriage lasted exactly 72 days. After a huge blow-out “fair tale” wedding and all the fanfare on TV and in the tabloids, only 72 days. So everyone is asking, What happened?
Flame-out marriages a la Kim and Kris often come about because of unique and powerful pressures in celebrity marriages–pressures that are not apparent to the public. Case in point- Kim, herself, said that conditions were “not ideal” for her relationship. Here are a few of the problems:
- The celebs know each other partly through their celebrity identities—so they are not seeing each other as they really are in their everyday lives in a clear way. For example, Kim projected a thoughtful, caretaking, relationship-focused identity to the public by staying with her mom during face lift surgery on their reality show. Kris may have partly fallen in love with that projected aspect of Kim. But the fact that she filed for divorce from Kris after a couple of months without even trying marital therapy suggests that this might not be a strong trait for Kim in her day-to-day life.
- A celebrity courtship always brings additional attention and fame—which fuels dopamine, the exciting over-the-moon infatuation biochemical. But when you remove the heightened spotlight the dopamine may disappear, which means partners are just not “feeling it” for each other. The true nature of the one-on-one relationship seems disappointing in comparison to how it all felt before. If the partners are not truly committed to working on their relationship, this can lead to a break up. Thus celebs like Kim can go from “fairy tale wedding” fireworks to a celebrity marriage and then right down into the dark pit of divorce.
- One partner may have less fame going for them and find that choosing a bigger celebrity for marriage is a big perk to their career. Enjoying this, they may talk themselves into thinking that the relationship has a more solid foundation than it really does. Perhaps this is the dynamic that Kris fell into with Kim, who was the bigger celeb.
Although I don’t know Kim or Kris personally, these are some of the powerful factors that are often at play in celebrity marriages that quickly flame out and become celebrity divorces.
No matter how it happens, divorce is never easy, whether you are a celebrity or not. So make sure your love relationship comes before work success–and is not drowned out by the needs of your children. You can learn much more about creating passionate lasting love my relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love.” So pick up a copy.
Wishing you love,
Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed new relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.