Dating & Relationship Advice for Women

This dating & relationship advice for women blog is an interview with one of our awesome professional Love Mentors®, Tamara Green, LCSW. She is licensed in New York State as a Certified Social Worker and a member of the National Association of Social Workers for 23 years. Tamara’s background and training in mental health, certified hypnotherapy, and belief management allows her to employ powerful techniques such as hypnosis, guided meditation, and experiential exercises as a dating coach.  Nationally recognized, she lectures, and facilitates teleconference groups and workshops.  Now here is a relationship advice interview with Tamara on “How Samantha Used One Simple Idea to Create Sacred Lasting Love”:

Recently , I was so fortunate to have visited beautiful Sedona, Arizona during a Holiday Family Reunion. I was fascinated with the red earth, the rock formations, the twisted trees, the powerful vortexes and the mystical happenings. Wanting to learn more about this incredible place, I did some research and found out that the American Indians never lived in Sedona because they considered it Sacred Ground. They never dreamed of being hurtful, disrespectful or ungrateful of this wonderful land they called their spiritual home. No, their sole purpose in visiting Sedona was only for worship, soul dancing, meditation, and contemplation. So, at least once per year, the Indians would pack up their tee pees and make their journey to Sedona for their emotional and spiritual evolution. They felt honored, open, trusting and grateful toward this land.

My wonderful mentor and friend, Dr Diana Kirschner, once said to me that love relationships are sacred, or at least they can be. I agree with her 100%! And eventually, my mentee, Samantha, did too.  Samantha journeyed from feeling disconnected, discarded and heartbroken in her relationship to feeling like it was sacred, solid ground, a love she could count on.   Can you imagine what this planet would be like if everyone believed that relationships were sacred ground, just like the Indians thought of Sedona? Just feel that one for a second. Wow! People would actually treat each other with honor, openness, trust and gratitude – in other words, be a contributor to their relationships.

News Flash:  Tune into Tamara as she is interviewed on how to create sacred lasting love on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on May 15!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen, Click Here!

Samantha started Love Mentoring® when she thought her relationship with Oscar was over. She admittedly was creating quite a bit of drama when ever things did not go her way.  But now Samantha and Oscar are deeply bonded in love and planning a solid future together where they will travel the world and take it all in.

How can you make that journey in your love life, just like Samantha did?  I started off her sessions with these questions: “Samantha, do you contribute or take away from your relationship? How do you treat this relationship? How do you act? Who are you being, such as, your worst or best self? How would you rate yourself in this relationship (1 being your worst self to 10 being your best self)?” She gave herself a 2. Then I had her explore the roles and identities she was operating from with Oscar. For example, was she the martyr, lazy slug, workaholic, dominator, victim, pleaser, loser, responsible one, thoughtless one, controlling, controlled, abuser, or abused? Samantha realized that she was “The Needy One” and putting pressure on Oscar by needing him to give her what she so desperately wanted – “To fill a void”. And, when that ‘void’ was not being filled, she was able to see that she tramped over, dumped on and complained to Oscar – a lot!. It was clear that she was contributing less than her best and was not treating this relationship as sacred as she could. Samantha and Oscar’s relationship took a complete turnaround when she viewed herself as a contributor. So, instead of looking at Oscar and asking what he should do for her, she asked what she could do for him. Then, Oscar, noticing and appreciating this huge change, naturally started doing this with her, as well.

Now, my question to you is how can you contribute to your partner’s life? In other words, instead of seeing what’s wrong with them or instead of focusing on what they are not doing for you, look at what’s right about them and what they are doing for you! Note: When you are contributing (honoring, valuing, trusting, being in gratitude) to someone else, you are also contributing to yourself.   What goes around comes around.  So I’m happy to report that every area of Samantha’s life has dramatically improved since starting this program!

News Flash:  Tune into Tamara as she is interviewed on how to create sacred lasting love on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on May 15!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen,Click Here!

Do you remember what it felt like when you first got together with your partner? The romantic sparks were flying, you were so excited to be together, you couldn’t stop thinking of each other and you were constantly planning what you would do or say when you were together again and in each other’s arms. The energy that you two were being was spectacular and huge – the size and brightness of the sun – because you were contributing – honoring, trusting, being open and feeling so much gratitude for one another. You began as Sacred Lasting Love. Then time went by and you started expecting things from one other. For example, “He needs to be home on time”. “She needs to cook the meals”. Then came the judgements, “He’s so inconsiderate of my feelings!”. “She’s always nagging and suffocating me with all of her demands!”. The Sacred Lasting Love starts to get smaller and not so bright.  Then comes the anger and frustration with lots of arguments or even worse, the silent treatment. The Sacred Lasting Love shrinks, becoming even more dull. It reaches a high point of disillusionment, deficiency and catastrophe. The relationship is in constant turmoil and the Sacred Lasting Love is now the size of a pea, all black and shriveled. What happened? It started off so grand and amazing and now it’s down right scary!

Are you ready to hear that one simple idea to create Sacred Lasting Love? Are you ready to commit to making one change NOW that could help take your relationship back to sacred? Yes?! Good for you! Here it is: Every day for the next 30 days, tell your partner at least one thing about him or her that you are happy about, appreciate, thankful or grateful for. It doesn’t matter how angry you are at someone, you can always find something about them that you appreciate. Go ahead, try this out and see how things start to change for the better, just like it did for Samantha and Oscar. As a Love Mentor® and Couples Therapist, I have seen marriages on the brink of divorce turn completely around with this easy first step and I know that you and your partner can do it, too!!! Make a stand for yourself, your partner and your relationship and take it back to Sacred Lasting Love!!

Thank you, for your great relationship advice, Tamara! You can get your own one-on-one free 40 minute Love Mentoring® Session with Tamara  by phone or Skype! Just click here  & fill out the form, requesting Tamara.  Hurry–her time will fill up quickly!

Tune into Tamara as she is interviewed on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on May 15!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen,Click Here!

“How Samantha Used One Simple Idea to Create Sacred Lasting Love” -The dating & relationship advice for women interview with Love Mentor® Tamara Green

DATE: Tuesday, May 15, 2012      TIME: 5:00 pm Pacific/8:00pm Eastern for one hour

COST: No charge  JOIN US LIVE VIA: Telephone, Skype, and Replay Access-Click Here For Details

     In this free dating & relationship advice for women seminar you will discover how to:

- Turn around your relationship with Sacred Love

- Show up in the relationship to feel happy and fulfilled forever

- Get endless love from your relationship

- Feel cherished. honored , open, trusting, and more grateful for the one you love

- Stay focused on the one facet of your relationship so that you create lasting love together

- Create Sacred Lasting Love!

And so much more  . . .

Please interact with us live during the show by visiting:  Facebook.com/DrDianaKirschner
Twitter.com/drdiana or Blog Talk Radio Chat

Thank you, Tamara, for your wise words and relationship advice for women. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session  by phone or Skype with Tamara, click hereor go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching and ask for Tamara on the form. For more information about this and future Love Mentoring® Seminars please visit-
http://www.lovementoring.com

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Dating Tips & Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating for over 50s. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Dating Advice for Women

Today’s blog is written by one of our awesome professional Love Mentors®, Karen Holland.  Karen is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who specializes in working with couples and individuals getting in and out of relationships.  She helps couples create passionate, fulfilling relationships.  Karen also helps singles heal from broken hearts and  find the relationship of their dreams. Now here’s Karen on how a simple change in one of her mentee’s minds (a woman named Alicia) led to the relationship of her dreams.

For the last couple of years, I’ve been walking by a yard with a dog that was tied up to a post with a six foot chain.  The dog would run in the same circular pattern, limited by the length of his chain.  Recently, I noticed that the owners built a large kennel giving the dog free rein to run much farther and in any direction it pleased.  Yet, the dog still runs in exactly the same way, in a small circular space.

It got me thinking about the power of limiting beliefs.   I mean, they’re just thoughts, right?  They don’t actually limit our physical reality but we sure behave as if they do, much like the dog on the invisible chain.  We create limiting beliefs in response to circumstances, usually the painful ones.   And, even though as human beings we have a remarkable ability to heal, we tend to respond to new experiences through this limited point of view and then our behaviors and experiences never actually change.

Before we get to a wonderful dating advice story about how Karen helped Alicia escape her limiting belief about men I want you to take advantage of this free offer.  If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session  by phone or Skype with Karen, click here or go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching and ask for Karen on the form.  Now back to our story:

One of my dear mentees, Alicia, a lovely plus-size gal, got her heart broken bad!  She developed the relationship killing beliefs that she was “unlovable” and “Men are jerks.”  In the context of these limiting beliefs, when she started to date again, she only saw men as either jerks or, if she really liked a guy, started to worry he wouldn’t be interested in her.  And, guess what?  She ignored some really great men (or pushed them away with her anxiety) and only focused on the ones who really were jerks. And boy, were there jerks who came into her life!!  So, like the dog in the wide open kennel, the world started to occur in a very limiting way even though in reality there were way more possibilities for her.

To break out of her pattern and become free from the chain to her past, I helped Alicia 1) Truly let go of the past painful experiences through forgiveness, finding the larger meaning and being grateful for what the experience taught her and 2) Learn to create more empowering, positive beliefs about her present and future.  I taught her to truly see the present for what it is—a wide open space for her to run and play in any direction she pleases.

In this context, I’m sure you can guess what happened to Alicia. Suddenly, Alicia was overwhelmed with responses from some really terrific men.  And, now she is with a truly wonderful man in the relationship of her dreams. He texts her daily, took her on an awesome trip to the Big Apple, bought her an emerald ring and they are making some serious future plans.

If you find yourself thinking the same negative thoughts or having the same negative experiences over and over, check to see if the chain is still there before coming to any conclusions about your actual reality.   Journal about the thoughts that are chaining you down.  Are they really true?  Is there any other way to look at your situation that might be more freeing, or feel better?   Write those thought down.  If they make you feel good, post them where you will see them daily.  You’ll find that you really can get the life and love you want!

Thank you Karen for your dating advice, wisdom and insight.

You can get your own one-on-one free 40 minute Love Mentoring® Session with Karen by phone or Skype! Just click here  & fill out the form, requesting Karen.  Hurry–her time will fill up quickly!

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Dating Tips & Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating for over 50s. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Dating Advice for Women

Dating Advice for Women Series

Most all of us fall prey to this lie.  And it can feel pretty awful…

However, it’s just not true.

The biggest lie about age that women still believe is—drum roll please—that men are not attracted to older women.  That once you hit your 40s, 50s, 60s or 70s, and you are single, it is next to impossible to get a great guy for the companionship, fun and romance you really want.  THIS IS SIMPLY NOT THE CASE.  It is just that women need support, encouragement and the dating advice tools to make love work (just as younger women do!).  And when they have that kind of coaching women of any age can create a relationship that is over the moon–the best they have ever ever had!

Here is a true love story by Brenda Thomas who is 60-something years young.  Brenda is in Love Mentoring® with one of our awesome coaches, Susan Kalinowski and she finally has her “Mr. Wonderful.”  (Note: If you want a powerful Love Mentor ally to help you, click here and get your own free 40 minute Love Mentoring® session by phone or Skype. You may even be able to speak with Susan, Brenda’s coach.  But hurry, her time slots are limited!). Now here’s Brenda’s story:

Several years ago, my cousin, Jonny, gave me a Mr. Wonderful doll for Christmas.  I had no idea what a hit Mr. Wonderful was making around the country.  He was a hunky male who, when his palm was pressed, uttered phrases like, “Let’s just cuddle tonight.” 

Or “Actually, I’m not sure which way to go.  I’ll turn in here and ask for directions.”  “Honey, why don’t you just relax and let me make dinner tonight” or “Can your mother stay another week?”

Funny, huh?  Not really…obviously, I didn’t have a Mr. Wonderful nor was one coming any time soon.  What’s wrong with just cuddling or asking for directions or making dinner?  Forget the one about my mother staying for another week….even I would have to veto that!

I felt like if I had a guy who came home and said, “Honey, you’ve been on my mind all day.  That’s why I bought you these flowers,”  I would be his adoring slave FOREVER!!!   Of course, that would be after he brought me back to consciousness.   But, as we know, men and women are just wired differently.  Really?  I have to say I’m being challenged in that belief.  Perhaps, we’re not all that different after all.  Maybe, it’s that each of us is unique with our little idiosyncrasies that develop over a lifetime.  Maybe, it’s not so much about being a male or a female. 

Maybe, it’s more about finding the person who makes life a little easier, a little more fun, a little more meaningful.  Finding the person who you can’t wait to share your piece of news with.  Or the person who makes you feel completely content just sitting next to him.

As you know, I’m writing this in my 60s.  I’ve been independent for 16 years…sometimes, happily so and sometimes, reluctantly.  I don’t think that I ever lost that joy for life….the ability to wake up happy every morning and look forward to whatever the day brings.  I don’t think being single made me think my life was terribly lacking in any way.  But, doesn’t a great love bring us closer to our higher selves?   When I was 18, I read Gibran just like every college freshman and his writing on Sorrow really stuck with me.  In fact, it’s been my mantra for life, “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy it can contain.”   There has been great sorrow in my life….almost always followed by great joy….the yin and the yang.  You just can’t have one without the other. 

And, so I’ve waited and waited….sixteen years…for the great joy that follows the great sorrow.  Lots of missteps, false starts, abrupt endings, unsatisfying couplings.

Then, I started hearing things like….

“Mmmm….you look so beautiful in the morning.”

“You know, I think it’s really important that we talk about our relationship.  Tell me whatever you’re feeling.  I believe in total honesty.”

OH MY GOD!!!!  HE’S HERE!!!  MR. WONDERFUL IS HERE!!! 

~Brenda Thomas

Thanks, Brenda, for this inspirational story!   Remember, you can find your own “Mr. Wonderful”  no matter what age you are right now.  Just like Brenda did. And if you want a powerful Love Mentor ally to help you, click here and get your own free 40 minute Love Mentoring® session by phone or Skype. You may even be able to speak with Susan, Brenda’s coach, and get her dating advice in your free session.  But hurry, her time slots are limited!

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana, The Love Mentor

♥Dating Advice, Love Mentoring® &  Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. has been a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Dating Advice for Women

Today’s blog about creating great sex and delicious intimacy is written by one of our expert Love Mentors®, Karen Holland. Karen is also a licensed marriage and family therapist and is well-known in the Denver area. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session with a seasoned pro like Karen, click here .

And here’s great news:  You can tune into Karen and fellow Love Mentor® Jim Delpino as they are interviewed on “How to be an Enticing, Irresistible Sexual Goddess with Your Clothes On” on our  free Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live, tonight,  on April 17!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen, Click Here! Now here’s Karen’s article:

“You always say no when I want to have sex!”  “Well, you never tell me you love me or even give me a hug when I come home! Why would I want to have sex with you!?” Sound familiar? Perhaps in your own relationship you’re caught up in the bind that Rick and Donna used to be caught up in.   Rick couldn’t understand why Donna lost all her desire for him and felt very frustrated and lonely.  Donna didn’t feel loved or appreciated and certainly didn’t want to do that with him! She was lonely too.

When they came to see me, their marriage was on the brink.  They needed help fast.  We talked about what it means to make love “outside the bedroom.” I gave them tools for developing emotional intimacy and we talked a lot about seduction, what sex and romance means for both of them and exercises to heat up their sex life as well as deepen their emotional connection.

Rule #1: Honest communication about what you and your partner needs is key.

Now Rick understands that warmth, words of appreciation and lots of physical affection make Donna feel closer to him.  To his delight, he also now gets that giving a good foot rub and a few kisses in just the right spot can drive Donna wild.  Donna understands that Rick needs the sexual connection to feel close to her. And she’s also learned simple strategies to reconnect to the irresistible sexy woman that she was with him during their courtship.   Now, they can’t keep their hands off each other!

Rule #2:  Be will to let go of the bind that keeps you stuck, feeling lonely and unfulfilled.

It wasn’t that hard.   Rick and Donna were just willing to get out of the bind and really understand what the other person needed and wanted.

Rule #3:  Get coaching to help you get unstuck.  Your relationship is too important to let it slide down the tubes!  If you try to bring things together and it is not working, get help, like Rick and Donna did.

With a little guidance, you too can get unstuck and start making a lot more love with your partner!  And you can go from a state of loneliness to sharing a great passionate connection.

Thank you, Karen, for your wise words. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session with a seasoned pro like Karen, click here .

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

And don’t forget to mark your calendar and tune into Karen and fellow Love Mentor® Jim Delpino as they are interviewed on “How to be an Enticing, Irresistible Sexual Goddess with Your Clothes On” on our  free Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, tonight, live on April 17!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen, Click Here!

DATE: Tonight, Tuesday, April 17, 2011      TIME: 5:00 pm Pacific/8:00pm Eastern for one hour

COST: No charge  JOIN US LIVE VIA: Telephone, Skype, and Replay Access-Click Here For Details

     In this free dating advice for women seminar you will discover . . .

•  Keep a man interested in getting to know you without sleeping with him too soon
• Become a powerful seductress and turn him and yourself on
• Know what men really want from women in the bedroom and beyond
• Build a man’s desire and become completely irresistible
• Know if a man’s really interested, or if you’re just another notch in his belt
• Hold onto yourself, learn to powerfully observe the quality of a man and build the foundation for a deeply sexy, loving relationship!

•   And much, much, more . . .

Interact with us live during the show by visiting:  Facebook.com/DrDianaKirschner
Twitter.com/drdiana or Blog Talk Radio Chat

Thank you, Karen, for your wise words and dating advice for women. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session  by phone or Skype with Karen,click here  and ask for Karen on the form. For more information about this and future Love Mentoring® Seminars please visit-
http://www.lovementoring.com

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Dating Tips & Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. has been a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating for over 50s. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Dating Advice for Women Series

Dating Advice for Women

This dating advice for women blog is an article by one of our awesome professional Love Mentors®, Jim Delpino.  Jim is a generalist, working with all ages and most issues who has been in private practice for 29 years.  He has helped many women become fulfilled –sexually and in creating great love relationships. His  practice combines Life Coaching and business consultations which adds other types of problems to solve.  He’s also been writing a monthly column for Icon (formerly Prime Time) magazine for over ten years. Now here is an article by Jim on The Fine Art of Seduction: Four Secrets You Must Know–starting with the success story of one of Jim’s mentees:

Debbie was in her mid-thirties and panicking about not being married. She had suffered for years with memories of being sexually abused as a child. As an adolescent and an adult she had a history of promiscuity. She couldn’t count how many guys she slept with during those years. Her very low self esteem and belief she was ugly powered her sexual drive She was willing to take crumbs from a man just to be noticed. She was unable to say ‘no’ to men for fear they would see nothing of value in her unless she had sex with them.  Then she started in Love Mentoring® with me.  And Debbie began meeting and dating guys who were as she called them, “mensches.”  When she met Charles she knew he was different. They fell in love and married. With my support, Debbie did something very different with Charles; she didn’t have sex with him until after they married. Charles understood that she needed to be loved fully before she could make-love for the first time.  So how did this fairy tale unfold.? Below are the four secrets that Debbie used to create the love that filled her heart.

But first a News Flash:  Mark your calendar and tune into Jim and fellow Love Mentor® Karen Holland as they are interviewed on “How to be an Enticing, Irresistible Sexual Goddess with Your Clothes On” on our  free Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on April 17!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen, Click Here!

Jim:  I taught Debbie that there is an old French saying that roughly translates to:  “Most men regret all of the women they never slept with while most women regret most of the men they have slept with.”  This is perhaps because having intercourse is a much more emotionally risky situation for women than for men. The latest neuroscience research confirms some things we have known all along. Sex is a much more emotional and bonding-type experience for women than for men. Oxytocin and Vasopressin (the bonding chemicals) are elevated for both genders during sexual experiences. The levels of these substances are substantially higher in women than in men. In addition to bonding, higher levels of oxytocin engender more feelings of trust in the other person and even have what is known as an amnesiac effect. This temporary amnesia helps to block negative memories of the sexual partner. All of this may help to clear up, on the biological level, how much hormones can affect the sexual judgment and choices even smart, well developed women make about sexual partners and perhaps why so many women end up with sexual experiences that they feel ashamed about and/or would rather just forget.

This is where the ‘Fine Art of Seduction’ comes into play. From what I observe in life as well as in psychotherapy sessions, seduction is becoming a lost art. Great sex is not the same as fast and easy sex.  Seduction uses the magic of imagining and fantasizing to stir and build desire, even lust. The experience of something highly anticipated is usually more satisfying than seizing an opportunity for standard copulation. For women, having the skills to prolong the seduction has many advantages. One of those advantages is the opportunity to check the potential partner more deeply over time. Because women are ‘wired’ much more relationally than men, they are seeking not only a connection, but a connection that can be sustained over time in the context of a relationship. Having the luxury of time allows a woman to sort through her feelings and needs to see if a partner can meet her real expectations. Being a good lover does not necessarily mean being a good partner outside of the bedroom. Another advantage of making seduction a longer process is that it allows for better communication and understanding, which is one key to eventually having great sex. With profound understanding, great communication, and a bonding process over time, the likelihood of higher, deeper and broader sexual experience increases dramatically. This is why sex too soon does not equal great sex.

News Flash:  Mark your calendar and tune into Jim and fellow Love Mentor® Karen Holland as they are interviewed on “How to be an Enticing, Irresistible Sexual Goddess with Your Clothes On” on our  free Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on April 17!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen, Click Here!

So here is some dating advice for women I frequently give to women like Debbie to promote a great and prolonged seduction without coming across like a prude or a person with sexual inhibitions. The four secrets are:

1) Remember that just because a man desires you it is not necessarily a compliment. Women can find men to desire them on any street corner, it is nothing special to hear from a man, “I want you”. 2) When a man expresses his desire to be with you, ask him to tell you what he’d like to do to you. This allows for you to test his creativity, evaluate his verbal communication skills and assess his sexual persona. These are all important elements in having an elevated time sexually. If a couple is unable to talk about it, then they are not ready to do it., 3) What comes to easily or too quickly is often undervalued. Waiting raises your value. Many women lack the confidence to withstand sexual advances from partners they deem to be attractive. They fear losing a good person to someone else that will ‘put out’. This is also how to differentiate between a ‘player’ who seeks conquest and a developed person who understands that a deep and sustained connection makes for great sex and a better relationship in general. Better intimacy multiplies the pleasure of sexual experiences. If you compromise here, you will pay a price. Make sure to communicate clearly that you are worth the wait., and 4) Great men like the chase. Being chased is very exciting and good for the esteem. If you allow sex too soon, you are depriving yourself and your potential partner the thrill of a great chase and seduction. Players and predators generally want the most vulnerable and easy victims. Great sex is not based upon ‘playing games’ and being victimized by shallowness.

If a woman is patient, maintains self-discipline and really owns her worth, she has the ability to elevate herself and her partner to their highest nature, creating the possibility of a deeply fulfilling, “mind-blowingly” sexy and loving relationship.

Thank you for your inspiration & powerful dating advice for women,  Jim! You can get your own one-on-one free 40 minute Love Mentoring® Session with Jim by phone or Skype! Just click here  & fill out the form, requesting Jim.  Hurry–his time will fill up quickly!

News Flash:  Mark your calendar and tune into Jim and fellow Love Mentor® Karen Holland as they are interviewed on “How to be an Enticing, Irresistible Sexual Goddess with Your Clothes On” on our  free Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on April 17!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen, Click Here!

DATE: Tuesday, April 17, 2011      TIME: 5:00 pm Pacific/8:00pm Eastern for one hour

COST: No charge  JOIN US LIVE VIA: Telephone, Skype, and Replay Access-Click Here For Details

     In this free dating advice for women seminar you will discover . . .

•  Keep a man interested in getting to know you without sleeping with him too soon
• Become a powerful seductress and turn him and yourself on
• Know what men really want from women in the bedroom and beyond
• Build a man’s desire and become completely irresistible
• Know if a man’s really interested, or if you’re just another notch in his belt
• Hold onto yourself, learn to powerfully observe the quality of a man and build the foundation for a deeply sexy, loving relationship!

•   And much, much, more . . .

Interact with us live during the show by visiting:  Facebook.com/DrDianaKirschner
Twitter.com/drdiana or Blog Talk Radio Chat

Thank you, Jim, for your wise words and dating advice for women. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session  by phone or Skype with Jim, click here or go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching and ask for Jim on the form. For more information about this and future Love Mentoring® Seminars please visit-
http://www.lovementoring.com

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Dating Tips & Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. has been a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating for over 50s. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Dating Advice for Women Series