Dating Advice for Women Series

Most all of us fall prey to this lie.  And it can feel pretty awful…

However, it’s just not true.

The biggest lie about age that women still believe is—drum roll please—that men are not attracted to older women.  That once you hit your 40s, 50s, 60s or 70s, and you are single, it is next to impossible to get a great guy for the companionship, fun and romance you really want.  THIS IS SIMPLY NOT THE CASE.  It is just that women need support, encouragement and the dating advice tools to make love work (just as younger women do!).  And when they have that kind of coaching women of any age can create a relationship that is over the moon–the best they have ever ever had!

Here is a true love story by Brenda Thomas who is 60-something years young.  Brenda is in Love Mentoring® with one of our awesome coaches, Susan Kalinowski and she finally has her “Mr. Wonderful.”  (Note: If you want a powerful Love Mentor ally to help you, click here and get your own free 40 minute Love Mentoring® session by phone or Skype. You may even be able to speak with Susan, Brenda’s coach.  But hurry, her time slots are limited!). Now here’s Brenda’s story:

Several years ago, my cousin, Jonny, gave me a Mr. Wonderful doll for Christmas.  I had no idea what a hit Mr. Wonderful was making around the country.  He was a hunky male who, when his palm was pressed, uttered phrases like, “Let’s just cuddle tonight.” 

Or “Actually, I’m not sure which way to go.  I’ll turn in here and ask for directions.”  “Honey, why don’t you just relax and let me make dinner tonight” or “Can your mother stay another week?”

Funny, huh?  Not really…obviously, I didn’t have a Mr. Wonderful nor was one coming any time soon.  What’s wrong with just cuddling or asking for directions or making dinner?  Forget the one about my mother staying for another week….even I would have to veto that!

I felt like if I had a guy who came home and said, “Honey, you’ve been on my mind all day.  That’s why I bought you these flowers,”  I would be his adoring slave FOREVER!!!   Of course, that would be after he brought me back to consciousness.   But, as we know, men and women are just wired differently.  Really?  I have to say I’m being challenged in that belief.  Perhaps, we’re not all that different after all.  Maybe, it’s that each of us is unique with our little idiosyncrasies that develop over a lifetime.  Maybe, it’s not so much about being a male or a female. 

Maybe, it’s more about finding the person who makes life a little easier, a little more fun, a little more meaningful.  Finding the person who you can’t wait to share your piece of news with.  Or the person who makes you feel completely content just sitting next to him.

As you know, I’m writing this in my 60s.  I’ve been independent for 16 years…sometimes, happily so and sometimes, reluctantly.  I don’t think that I ever lost that joy for life….the ability to wake up happy every morning and look forward to whatever the day brings.  I don’t think being single made me think my life was terribly lacking in any way.  But, doesn’t a great love bring us closer to our higher selves?   When I was 18, I read Gibran just like every college freshman and his writing on Sorrow really stuck with me.  In fact, it’s been my mantra for life, “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy it can contain.”   There has been great sorrow in my life….almost always followed by great joy….the yin and the yang.  You just can’t have one without the other. 

And, so I’ve waited and waited….sixteen years…for the great joy that follows the great sorrow.  Lots of missteps, false starts, abrupt endings, unsatisfying couplings.

Then, I started hearing things like….

“Mmmm….you look so beautiful in the morning.”

“You know, I think it’s really important that we talk about our relationship.  Tell me whatever you’re feeling.  I believe in total honesty.”

OH MY GOD!!!!  HE’S HERE!!!  MR. WONDERFUL IS HERE!!! 

~Brenda Thomas

Thanks, Brenda, for this inspirational story!   Remember, you can find your own “Mr. Wonderful”  no matter what age you are right now.  Just like Brenda did. And if you want a powerful Love Mentor ally to help you, click here and get your own free 40 minute Love Mentoring® session by phone or Skype. You may even be able to speak with Susan, Brenda’s coach, and get her dating advice in your free session.  But hurry, her time slots are limited!

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana, The Love Mentor

♥Dating Advice, Love Mentoring® &  Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. has been a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

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Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Dating Advice for Women Series

Today I want to zero in on how one simple step can change your dating and love–life big time.

You may be packing a few extra pounds or even more weight.  You may be feeling a bit wrinkled, worn and old.   You may be burnt out from the dating scene.  But it truly does not matter!  You can take a simple step, empower yourself in a fresh new way and create an awesome romance.   Let’s talk about  ‘Sally,” one of the women who  works with Tamara Green in our Love Mentoring® program (our specialized dating coaching).   She is about 50lbs overweight and in her 50’s.  Although she has not lost any weight and her age certainly has not changed, she took the simple step I am about to share with you and her whole life changed:  When Sally started Love Mentoring® she was not dating at all.  Now almost every man she meets asks her out, she’s so appealing.    In the last year, four men have asked her for an exclusive relationship.  Sally is someone who had trouble getting even one date. Now she’s a dating queen!

(OK.  I know this is inspirational to you.  And if you want a powerful Love Mentor ally like Tamara to help you transform your love life like Sally did, click here and get your own free 40 minute Love Mentoring® session.  Now back to Sally.)

When Sally started  Love Mentoring®, she would say things  like, “I’m too unattractive to men”, “Men want thinner women”, “I’m too old”, “No man wants a woman with a health problem.”  In other words, she was very focused on what was wrong or unattractive about her.   This kind of negative self talk is what tends to shackle you,  hold you back from getting out there, meeting people and fulfilling your dreams of companionship and passionate love.   The awesome simple step Sally made was to turn this negative self talk into positive inner comments about herself.  This 360º turn is what completely transformed her love life.  Sally’s  Love Mentor, Tamara,  explained to her that her negative self-doubting thoughts came from a negative identity–which had to do with being old, fat, and so on.   So Sally needed to create an identity that was beautiful, fantastic and very alluring to men.   We call this the Diamond Self Identity.

Sally used a new  Diamond Self process that can help you turn your negative thoughts about yourself into positive one.  It involves two steps:

• Ask your best friends to tell you what is most wonderful about you–why they love you, why they love to be around you.  What is beautiful and attractive about you. Write down their answers. 
• Ask them to help you create a new Diamond Self nickname based on what they perceive about you.

For example, Tamara told Sally that she  had a very magnetic personality.  Sally’s best friend told her that she was very curvy and reminded her of a luscious Venus figure from antiquity.  Tamara and Sally came up with a nickname that was  Luscious and Alluring Venus (LAV for short)!!! You can even hear the difference in Sally’s voice when she plays around with that nickname for herself. LAV has a great energy to her!

Take a few moments and call a friend or two and ask them what is really attractive about you.  Then ask them to help you jot down nicknames you might give yourself. Don’t be shy!  Think Aphrodite, Queen Latifah, Luscious Liz, Amazing Grace.  Just free associate to the wonderful things your friends say about you.

If you do feel shy or stuck in using this process or find that it is too hard for you to do on your own, you can arrange a free 40 minute consult by phone or Skype with one of my awesome Love Mentors®– just to help you get going with your positive self talk and Diamond Self nickname.  These sessions are not only fun, and empowering, they can be true game changers.  We even had one woman who was able to get engaged right after her free intro session–because she identified and got over her negative self-sabotaging thoughts in regard to her relationship with her boyfriend!  Just click here to set up your free consult with a Love Mentor.

Sally used her positive shift to give herself a makeover so that she looks younger, feels younger and, of course, feels so much better about herself. Sally used to avoid mirrors. Now when she looks in the mirror, she is pleasantly surprised by how good she looks.  Now that she has accessed her Diamond Self, she operates from that identity in everything that she does. Sally’s amazing.  She uses every opportunity to meet men.  One day, she was walking into a restaurant and this man was walking in at the same time. Seeing that he was alone, she very brightly said, “Hi, how are you today?!”. The surprised man warmly smiled back and said, “Much better now!” He quickly asked if they could sit together. They had a great meal together, laughing and telling stories of their travels.  They have now been dating for 4 months, and he’s very smitten with her too.

This can happen for you.  Yes, you.  You can instantly boost and build your self confidence and build self esteem. And find a real love match that is just right for you.  So please begin working on this simple step for yourself.  Call your friends, jot down some nicknames.  And if you want a powerful Love Mentor ally to help you, click here and get your free 40 minute Love Mentoring® session.

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana, The Love Mentor

Love Mentoring® &  Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

This dating advice for women blog is an interview with one of our awesome professional Love Mentors®, Susan Kalinowski, LCSW. Susan  is a highly experienced Love Mentor®  who has been extensively trained and supervised  in our approach. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Board Certified Diplomate specializing in couples counseling, relationship issues, communication, pre-marital counseling and helping individuals and couples find personal fulfillment.  Susan lives in the Philadelphia area with her wonderful husband of many years. Now here is an interview with Susan on how to Find Your Confident, Empowered Diamond Self.

What do you mean by Finding Your Diamond Self?

Each of us has something wonderful in our make-up, something that makes us shine.  We call that your Diamond Self.   Start by finding that something in those around you, at work, at your health club, among your neighbors, even among your family members. It is often easier to see their great characteristics before you see your own. This one has a great sense of humor, this one is athletic, this one has a gift for conversation, that one is sooo smart.  If you don’t see a sparkle of fabulous in others then dig and find it because once you get proficient at that skill you can turn it on yourself.

How does that translate into your work as a Love Mentor?

If you see your own beauty you might give yourself a break and start to speak and act from your truth, from your core.  I have found that once people reach that level of self-appreciation, they can find a partner.

Once the beauty you are on the inside is given support and permission to express herself (or himself) , all sorts of attractive things bubble to the surface. You need less armor for defensive protection. More and more of you shows and glows. You find yourself naturally defending your right to have great things because you know you deserve to have them. You speak and you are your truth. That is very attractive.

News Flash:  Tune into dating & relationship coach Susan as she is interviewed on dating advice for women–how to become find your Diamond Self  on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on February 21!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen,Click Here!

Is that difficult for people, to find their sparkle and true voice?

At first, I find many of those I mentor are afraid of that inner person for a number of reasons.  She has been given messages over the years that hiding is safer. It could be she was criticized or abandoned when she was outspoken and exuberant, maybe she was criticized and abandoned even for just being. Perhaps she was even abused. Somehow she got the message that she could not be who she truly was.  Sometimes she even disappeared her own feelings altogether– becoming numb and unaware. Sometimes she became brassy or crusty, promiscuous or turned to addiction to protect the vulnerability. Sometimes she is the very good helpful girl who tries to please.  Regardless, the notion that she was wonderful simply for having been born, for breathing, for existing was not internalized. She learned parts or all of her essence needed to take a back seat.

How can someone begin to value himself or herself after being molded or scarred?

It can take some work!  I do an exercise I call  “chocolate cake.”  I have someone imagine their favorite dessert and describe it to me. There is a sensuous and adoring quality to what comes out of their mouths. You can feel the power of that crème brulee or Vanilla Swiss Almond ice cream. Now I have the person imagine they are in a social situation and that they are that incredible desirable alluring satisfying dessert just sitting there on the counter. With  their eyes closed on SKYPE I can see the transformation of the person imagining the dessert. There is a smile, a confidence, a self-prizing look, the cat that swallowed the canary. A place where you toss your head and raise your eyebrows as if to say…”Mmmmmm I am delicious…:  A sensuality naturally exists in all of us that has a chance to emerge just thinking you are the dessert.

As you work on the Diamond self exercises in Dr D’s books or with a mentor you gradually get more conscious of how you stifle you.  As you own the you you lost,  great things happen.

News Flash:  Tune into dating & relationship coach Susan as she is interviewed on dating advice for women–how to become find your Diamond Self  on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on February 21!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen,Click Here!

What sorts of things do you see?

A person’s Boundaries improve:  More and more often you say no to things that don’t work for you or say yes and reach for those things that do.

You learn that hiding less is strong, not weak.  For example, telling someone you care, may feel at first like exposing yourself to potential rejection; however gradually it becomes a means to a deeper, more honest and fulfilling relationship with someone who is into you and a brave person as well.

Intimacy potential (and actuality) increases with others

There is less need for drama because you are not holding things in trying to be who you are not.  With less drama you can fight cleanly (and connect better with another) or walk away knowing why and move on swiftly because you know you did not contaminate things, you just said your piece in peace.

Your healing continues to accelerate once you find a partner who loves the real you.

A relationship can grow from a firmer foundation. That person who does not leave and even delights in the you who you thought was hideous flawed, weak, unforgiveable etc, is a treasure of immeasurable worth.   (this also gives the partner permission to let you see his “warts” and grow from your acceptance and love)

Wow this sounds great! Is there more?

Yes ! Friendships and family relationships improve because you can express your happiness for someone even when you are feeling vulnerable  ie. : “I am so glad you got that great job and your career is taking off and, though I must confess I worry that you will forget all about me when you move across country etc.”

There is less and less false advertising on the dating front. You are likely to end up with someone who is a “fit” much more quickly. What they see is what they get from the beginning, no surprises. You save time being the real you.

You have more fun.  When you are more comfortable with you, so are other people. The positive energy loop becomes better and better. You are relaxed, your best self and lighter…more spontaneous and humorous, freer and in the moment. This is attractive, drawing others to you (including men).

When people know their own “good time” they shine and are irresistible.

You are kinder and gentler because you don’t take yourself so seriously. The internal task-master has less power over you. You have less harsh judgments of yourself and others. This is attractive and attracting as well.

This is amazing; is it difficult for people to achieve?

It takes courage in the beginning for sure. I have had discussions about intimacy and how exposed people feel when they are spending more and more time with a lover.  Worries about teeth, hair, weight, cellulite, passing gas,  etc. are opportunities for humor and fun when your partner knows your insecurities and delights in you in all your glory.  The more practice with facing your supposed flaws and exposing them the easier and more relaxed you become.

There is also less guilt in your life because you can own your words and actions. Apologies are easier and assertiveness is easier; so there is less “I should haves or I shouldn’t haves” pushing those guilt buttons.

Let me share one of my mentee’s journeys with you:  Sarah and I began speaking after she left her marriage of many years. She was lovely and didn’t think so. Her ex had been controlling and demanding sexual things with which she was not comfortable. Though she was successful in her career as a nurse she did not transfer the power (she was smart and respected and promoted) to her personal life.  She had ended the marriage without telling her ex her truth. She began dating and gradually it became apparent that she was choosing guys who were not her equal and she was behaving seductively early on. Gradually she shared that she had always been praised for being “the Good child that I never worry about” by her overwhelmed mother and ineffective father. Her one sibling had MS and her other had considerable mental health issues. If Sarah was not good and functioning and getting good grades she received no rewards.  She disappeared unless she was supergirl. Hence she never got to be just herself. She also put a lot of pressure on herself  to please others both at work and in relationships. She did not give herself permission to say no, or to put herself first in a healthy way.  She revealed she had poor body image issues and mild self-mutilation for her perceived lack of self worth.  She did not think she was attractive and valued and desirable for just being.  Over time working on her Diamond self she stopped seeing Duds and allowed a relationship with a very nice man. She was plagued by doubt and sure he did not desire her. No matter how loving he was she would withdraw and be moody and wary of trust. With coaching and his steadfast love she slowly gained confidence. She finally told him many of the things she was ashamed of and those things she longed for. He loved her all the more.  She began to experience herself as lovable at all times not just when she was trying to say or do what she thought would be acceptable and praiseworthy. They got married (she was 15 lbs heavier than when they had met and she was light-years lighter emotionally). She was blissfully happy and had found deeper love of her core self. When she had spoken up she had become her own champion and this set her free.

Thank you for sharing that story.  Do you have any closing pearls of wisdom?

The goal is relaxing into joy.  It can set you free if you keep your sights and your work focused on it. In general think about the people you know who have an easy, real self-acceptance.  Watch them in action when there is someone who they find attractive.  Usually all they have to do is smile with their eyes and the message is sent to the other.  They have the awareness that they are ready and willing and able to deliver. When that message is received by the other who also has that awareness of self there is an opportunity for the beginning of a beautiful easy joyful relationship.

Thank you, Susan! You can get your own one-on-one free 40 minute Love Mentoring® Session with Susan by phone or Skype! Just click here  & fill out the form, requesting Susan.  Hurry–her time will fill up quickly!

Tune into Susan as she is interviewed on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on February 21!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen,Click Here!

“Finding Your Diamond Self: Confident & Empowered” -The dating advice for women interview with Love Mentor® Tamara Green

DATE: Tuesday, February 21, 2012      TIME: 5:00 pm Pacific/8:00pm Eastern for one hour

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     In this free dating advice for women seminar you will discover . . .

• How to love yourself, just the way you are now -
• How to identify your Diamond Self -
• How to operate from your  Diamond Self to attract men -
• Why men find women who operate from their Diamond Self irresistible

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Thank you again, Susan, for your wise words and dating advice for women. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session  by phone or Skype with Susan, click hereor go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching and ask for Susanon the form. For more information about this and future Love Mentoring® Seminars please visit-
http://www.lovementoring.com

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Dating Tips & Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating for over 50s. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Are you in a rocky relationship?  Feeling resentful, anxious, distant, or lonely in your situation?  Whether you have been dating two months or married 10 years, things can go south all too easily in a couple.  Yet there is nothing quite as painful as when things are falling apart, when you know that your love might be lost forever.  Can I turn it all around, you wonder?  Is it even possible now?

Well I have great news for you.  It is possible.  If you have the courage to go for it.  All you need is to follow my three simple steps and you can become super happy with your partner.  Here is the three-step secret sauce, adapted from my new paperback, Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love. It’s on sale now and comes with 30 awesome bonus gifts which you can claim at www.lovein90days.com/your-bonus-gifts

1.   Identify what I call your Relationship-Killer Beliefs.  These are beliefs like, “All men are jerks,” which kick in when you are in love that cause you to go on emotional rants in your mind instead of dealing with what is actually happening. Let’s look at a Relationship-Killer belief in action described in an email that Joanne, one of my readers recently sent me:

Dear Dr. Diana,

Sealing the Deal just saved my relationship. I was ready to break up with my boyfriend of 10 months because he was recently divorced and not meeting my emotional needs. I was out of town for the holidays and contemplating if this would be the last time we would be together. When I got to his house he had a big smile on his face and was so loving… but that wasn’t good enough for me. I had to punish him for all the times he wasn’t loving so I was standoffish.

  While sitting next to him watching the football game, I began reading your book, Sealing the Deal. I had already read Love in 90 Days. I read for several hours while completely ignoring his love and advances, something I’m always complaining that he doesn’t give me enough of. I finally got to the killer beliefs.  I had killer belief #5 “This is not exactly right.” and #6 “Relationships mean that one person has to give him- or her-self up”. But what really hit home was the research that unhappy couples discount their mate’s actions because they don’t think they have good intentions. BINGO! That has been me all the way. I want my boyfriend to behave a certain way and when he does, instead of encouraging him and being happy, I punish him because he wasn’t doing it all along! I am so thankful that he has loved me enough to not throw me out on my butt.  The first light bulb just came on! Because of all my killer beliefs in action we went to bed with a little tension between us. I kept laying there thinking, Joanne, you are so blowing it here. I also kept thinking negatively about my boyfriend lying right next to me and all he doesn’t do.  

2. After you have identified your Killer Beliefs, like Joanne did, journal about them and compare them to what is truly going on in your relationship. Let’s continue with her breakthrough story.

I got up about 3 a.m. because I couldn’t sleep because of a sudden head cold. I took your book into the kitchen with me and read it while getting some cold medicine. I wrote down my Killer beliefs and then made out a long list of all the great loving things my boyfriend had done.  I felt freed of an enormous burden.

 3. Create what I call a Love Intention, which is a one statement affirmation about the kind of super happy relationship you would like to create. If it feels right, also help create one for your partner. Let’s see how Joanne did it:

Then I got to the part about creating a Love Intention and focusing on what you “want” instead of what you don’t have. I created the love intention, “Jon and I have an exciting, fulfilling, growing, passionate, and nurturing relationship.” I kept meditating on this. When I got a negative thought about my boyfriend, I pushed it aside and mentally repeated the intention. Then I decided to make one for my boyfriend who is always trying to explain to me that he loves me but he needs his man time. I went back to bed.

 When we woke up I told him about my love intention and that anytime I had a negative thought about him or our relationship that I am going to meditate on my intention instead of what I don’t have. Then I told him that I created one for him to which he quickly replied, “You can’t do that.” But then I said,” Just hear it. I told him that the the love intention I created for him was, “Joanne and I have a growing relationship that is balanced with the perfect amount of togetherness and independence.” He loved it! He only wanted to add one thing. He said put “happy” in there so that it would read “a growing and happy relationship.” He kept saying it over and over until he memorized it. Then he said, “That really empowers me.”

 The rest of the morning was beautiful. We talked in bed. He made me breakfast. I put on cute clothes, fixed my hair, and put on a little makeup (something he likes). He told me I was so sexy. He was so attentive and loving (what I want). He asked me if I wanted to workout with him at my gym tomorrow (he’s hasn’t asked me that in 4 months).  When I was leaving he gave me a big hug and told me he’d call me later to see if I needed anything for my cold. Diana…. everything I wanted just materialized by making a shift in my thinking which came from following your book. I now realize that my man isn’t the problem, I am the problem! Over analyzing, being negative, and pushing him away.  I am so thankful to your book and that I picked it up and started reading it at just the right time. If not, I would have let this good man go.

So there you have it.   Use these three simple steps, Identifying your Relationship-Killer Beliefs; Journaling about them and what is happening in your relationship; and creating a Love Intention for you (and possibly your partner).  Then go ahead and enjoy your super happy love!

For more on Relationship-Killer beliefs, how to go from casual to committed, and how to move from love problems to solutions that deepen any love relationship (even after cheating), pick up a copy of Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love.  It’s on sale now and comes with 30 awesome bonus gifts which you can claim at www.lovein90days.com/your-bonus-gifts

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.