Here’s why so many successful women have trouble finding love.
Imagine if you were being laid off or wanted to make more money. You’d make getting a new job an absolute priority, wouldn’t you? You would spend hours networking and searching for a new position.
In contrast, despite being alone, I suspect that finding love ranks pretty low on your to-do list. If you’re like most successful, smart women, you come home from a stressful day at work, run errands, answer some emails, and watch your favorite show. Or, maybe you’re the type who puts in extra hours at the office, meets the girls out for a drink, notices a couple of interesting guys but figures it’s too hard to get their attention, then heads home without giving them another thought. You may want to find a caring, loving partner, but you think, who has the time? At best you spend maybe 15 minutes browsing an online dating site. Sound familiar?
I’ve helped thousands of successful women find wonderful relationships, and it all started with one simple shift. Each made just one decision that changed her priorities and changed her life: the decision to roll out the red carpet for love.
It’s all about truly making love a priority!
Now, I know what you’re thinking: If it is meant to be, it will just happen. I don’t want to be (seem) desperate. Love comes when you let go, when you are not looking.
My question to you is: How has that way of thinking worked for you so far?
I have critical news for you: study after study has shown that love relationships have a huge impact on our psychological, economic, and physical well-being. Having a life partner can create a higher sense of self-worth, provide intimacy and emotional support which fulfills the deepest human need for connection, and lead to greater wealth and economic stability. As a result, married people may be happier, live more satisfying lives, and have fewer psychological problems, including depression. Many researchers say that these factors lead to better physical health, greater health-seeking behavior, and lower rates of alcoholism. Here’s the big take-away: for over 100 years studies around the world have shown that married people live longer and enjoy a higher quality of life than those who aren’t partnered! With everything a healthy love relationship has going for it, why let anything hold you back from choosing love as a top priority in your life?
So, choose one action step you can take this month to make finding love a priority. Here are some examples:
- Find and say hello to three new men every day.
- Sign up for an online dating site or app and commit to really meeting men on it over the next 30 days.
- Add more “guy-friendly” activities into your life and visit the kinds of places men usually hang out. For example, take golf lessons, take a sailing class, go to a baseball game, join a hiking group.
- Ask three friends to set you up.
- Determine the dead-end dating patterns that are keeping you stuck in the same relationship scenarios. (I detail all of these dead-end patterns in my book Love in 90 Days — and give you action steps to break free.)
- Find a love mentor. This may be the most life-changing step of all. Just like you’d work with business mentor to get to the next level in your career, a love mentor can help you completely transform your love life. To find a mentor, consider the women you know who have the kind of successful relationship you desire and ask for feedback. Or, you can work with an expert. I have a team of highly trained Love Mentor Dating and Relationship Coaches and I’m excited to say I can offer you a complimentary coaching session by phone or Skype. Go here for details.
You deserve to meet the One and have the relationship you’ve always desired. I know that you can have it. But you must take the steps needed to create it. You must make finding love a priority.
Are you going to risk being alone and lonely, missing out on all that love can give? No. I know!