Research says you have 6- 30 seconds to make an impression on someone. These groundbreaking networking tips will get you more career connections and dates.
Sarah is a bright redhead in her late 40s who signed on for Love Mentoring® in June. When she first called us she was devastated. Her on again off again boyfriend had once again broken up with her… in a text! As if that wasn’t enough to deal with, she was at a low point in her career. She hated her boss, was bored at her job, and wasn’t making as much money as she deserved. Over the next few months, we supported her in healing and helped her step into her most confident, irresistible self. Within just a few months, she was dating up a storm. She’s now dating the sweetest, most loyal creative exec who treats her like a queen. When her ex popped up last month asking for another chance, she didn’t even think twice before saying, “no thank you.”
It’s not just her dating life that transformed. Sarah’s career has also taken a turn for the better. In fact, she just landed her dream job as a marketing manager for a fortune 500 company. What makes Love Mentoring® so unique is that it’s an inside-out process. Through Love Mentoring,® Sarah owned her power as a lovable, deserving and smart woman. She’s raised her standards and attracted more opportunities in all areas of her life, including her career.
Sarah’s new job actually came about through networking — something her Love Mentor had helped her with. So, this week, I wanted to share some of my favorite networking tips. You can use these to get the job or man of your dreams!
1. See Every Interaction as a Win-Win Connection.
While I recommend looking for events that will have people in your area of interest, don’t shy away from chatting with people out and about, as you go about your day. Even if you aren’t attracted to the man in front of you at Starbucks, you never know who he knows.
2. Imagine That a New Person Is Your Best Friend.
Imagine meeting one of your best friends or a dear relative for dinner. Think about how accepted and warm you feel, how comfortable, how real, and how relaxed you are. Now imagine being that connected to a date or friend who is the latest addition to your network. A great fantasy, right? You can use the same technique when you are meeting a new guy, a new date, or for that matter, anyone. Simply program yourself to be an old friend or relative who is entirely comfortable with this person.
So try a little experiment: before you meet someone, close your eyes and think: this is a wonderful relative, or a best friend with whom I feel really comfortable and warm. You will be more relaxed and this attitude in turn will put the person you’re with at ease as well. This works when it comes to networking, first dates, meeting new friends, and so on!
3. Use a Ten Second Soundbite Intro.
Research says you have from 6 to 30 seconds to make an impression on someone. The most frequently asked question you will be asked is, “What do you do?” The last thing you should say is “I’m an accountant,” or “I’m an actress.” Generally, no one cares what you do for a living. What you need to convey is how you can help them in ten seconds or less. For that, you need to develop a personal soundbite. You want the person to be so intrigued that he/she must get to know you. For example, an accountant or bookkeeper might say, “I help change people’s relationship to money.” An actress could say, “I take people on vacations of the mind.” A real estate agent could open up intrigue by saying, “I help people to live their lives in beauty and comfort.” Your own unique soundbite will lead to a much richer opening conversation. Make it a part of any introduction. Remember, you’re not just talking to one person; you’re potentially talking to a whole new network of family and friends.
4. Be Completely Focused on the Other Person.
Create a positive memorable impression and a strong connection by completely focusing on the other person. Ask questions and allow yourself to discover the special qualities of the person standing in front of you. Suspend your usual inner chatter or typical commentary. Think of the delighted discovery of a mother seeing her infant for the first time. Study the person’s face, eyes, listen to the voice, and notice what you truly like. The Eastern traditions talk about seeing Buddha or the divine spark in each person, a powerful, powerful concept. Look for the divine in the person you’re getting to know. Not only does this method create bonding but it truly helps overcome shyness.