Here’s another informative research report on the question “is marriage toxic to women?” in our Dating Advice for Women Series
Is marriage toxic to women? Many studies that compare single people with couples as to their quality of life and general health and happiness come to conflicting conclusions. Some say that couples are happier and healthier while others report that singles are just as well off. On top of that common sense tells you that bad coupling and marriages aren’t going to be good for either party’s well-being. In fact, many writers and social critics especially feminists have answered the question is marriage toxic to women with a “hell yes”.
I think the key to understanding these confusing results and answering the question, “is marriage toxic to women” is the variable of couple satisfaction. Most studies have simply not measured the couple’s happiness as part of their experiments or surveys. Of those that did, here’s the overview. Bad or unsatisfactory coupling or marriages may contribute to health and psychological problems while good coupling may protect you from certain diseases or help you to recover faster.
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We can’t go into all of the research that addresses the “is marriage toxic to women” question so here are the findings from a few of the major studies. A study of long-term coupling in which the partners were unhappy, showed that women more than men were likely to suffer from high blood pressure and obesity. Others have shown that poor coupling or marital quality was associated with depression, worsened physical health, poor sleep and metabolic problems.
We’ve also already shown that once a woman is divorced or separated that her economic, health and general well-being are all adversely affected. In fact, singles with strong social support have been found to be nearly as well off as women in good relationships. That’s because social support and love are probably the key drivers behind many of the positive findings in comparison studies of singles, married, living together and divorced women.
So what about women in long-term satisfying relationships? Is marriage toxic to women in those situations? In comparison studies, they had the least atherosclerosis in their arteries and lived much longer if they did have heart disease. They had fewer doctor visits, lower blood pressure than singles or women in unhappy relationships. Studies of long-term couples showed that they report fewer headaches and back pain. Happy couples healed twice as fast from flesh wounds than those who demonstrated hostility toward each other. In fMRI studies of the brain, men and women in long-term relationships showed activation in the areas of the brain associated with dopamine as if they were newly coupled. There is no question then that the social support of a loving partner contributes to having a healthier, longer and happier life.
Bottom Line: Coupling by itself is not an answer to all of life’s problems. Being single today combined with a strong social network of family and friends, is a very viable alternative to even a healthy relationship. But is a good marriage toxic to women? No.
If you do decide to couple, choose someone who is a good match, someone who is devoted to you and committed to handling the inevitable bumps and potholes that you will face on your journey. Because if it does not go well and you separate, the research suggests that you will suffer more than if you had never married.
On the other hand, a good relationship is worth creating and working on because it can have other many positive effects on your health and well-being. If you would like my Love Mentors to help you create a great love relationship sign up for a free dating coach session by phone or skype. You can have dating coaching from a trained Love Mentor who has a long background in transformational work and is closely supervised by me.
Wishing you great love,