Have you wondered how to find your Soulmate?
Well here’s what Shakespeare wrote: Love moderately: long love doth so; Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.
When it comes to dating, the Bard got it right. Moderation is key. It keeps you from moving too quickly or too slowly. Especially when you’re getting to know new men and what they bring to your table. And the most powerful way to achieve moderation is by dating more than one guy at a time. And the best way to do that is through my Find Your Soulmate Online Dating Program. You avoid that pressured decision to sleep with a guy and its aftermath: a Flame Out that usually kills the relationship. Instead you date a number of men at the same time without having sex with any of them. By not seeing any one man too often, you find the men who are really into you. The ones who will stay the course. Plus, you break out of your prison of deadly dating patterns. And maneuver more skillfully in the dating world. In my experience, my Find Your Soulmate Dating Program is the best way to find your Soulmate.
Although to find your Soulmate, much less juggling a few guys, may sound challenging — if not downright impossible! — let me reassure you: it won’t be once you begin using all the tools I teach you. To help you do that on an ongoing basis please sign up today for my FREE Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter. It’s chock-full of fresh information about online dating. And how to find your soulmate online. And, flirting, how to rekindle passion in a relationship and great sex secrets for you.
Why It Works
There are three sound biological reasons why my Find Your Soulmate Online Dating Program rocks!
First of all, it helps you avoid the number one mistake that single women make. And that is: the addictive moth-to-a-flame over-involvement with some new guy who is supposedly the “One”. I call this Flame-Out a Deadly Dating Pattern. This is because romantic love is a real addiction. It is like using cocaine or heroin, which means reason goes out the window. When we “fall in love” our brains make large quantities of dopamine and norepinephrine. That also happens when you take speed! These brain chemicals create an excited, exhilarated and focused state. And that allows us to have eight-hour dates. And remember every detail about what our new hottie did and said. These speed-like chemicals also can drive up our levels of testosterone. And that increases libido and desire.
Second, when we fall in love, serotonin levels fall. And resemble the levels found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorders. So we tend to ruminate, fantasize and obsess about our new (drug-like) boyfriends. The new love is in our thoughts all day and in our dreams at night. Your brain says, focus on him, focus on him, focus on him.
Once this process takes you over, you become like a craving coke addict. You lose touch with reality. And see only the positives. You lose self-control. Instead you are locked on the target, the fix–hotwired and ready to do outrageous things. Sometimes self-destructive things, whatever it takes to be with him. One look, one sweet word is all it takes. Even if you don’t really know him. Even if it is not in your best interests. And as you continue to spend more time together the addiction intensifies.
If you move too quickly into the pulsing rush of love, you put yourself at risk for an agonizing withdrawal. Especially if this man rejects you. Then sleeplessness, crying jags, over- or under eating, obsessive and upsetting thoughts. All of these mess with your brain chemistry even further.
The Soulmate Dating Program safeguards you against all these dangers of love addiction. On this program you will see the new hottie less often. And have a measured coming together. You will be less likely to lock on to him with a singular focus that puts you at risk. In this way you elegantly avoid getting physiologically and emotionally devastated. Especially if it turns out that he is a player or all wrong for you.
Last but not least, the How to Find Your Soulmate Program also stops you from having sex prematurely. Why is this so important? Simple biology. When you have sex with someone, your body drives up the levels of oxytocin. This happens both during the whole sexual act and after you leave the scene. Oxytocin has been called the cuddle, bonding, or tend-and-befriend hormone. It creates a strong biological attachment. This means that your body may automatically start the attachment process with almost anyone you bed. And whether or not you want to be in a relationship with him! Add that chemical to any dopamine surges and you’re desperately waiting for his text, email or phone call. Jumping into bed too soon means you open yourself to premature infatuation. A dependency and a kind of pseudo-intimacy that almost always backfires. Then, caught in the chemical soup of dopamine and oxytocin, you will likely lose yourself.
Dating more than one guy at the same time helps clarify what you want and need in a man. Because you can easily and instantly compare and contrast. So if you want to fast forward your Find Your Soulmate Online Program I urge you to sign up for a free 40-minute session with an expert Dating Coach.
Wishing you love,