I was on the Today show doing a segment about how to turn love disappointments into victories. Here are the five tips I was not able to give on air, the steps you can take that can help when things go south, especially in your dating or love life. Life almost always takes a left turn-it never seems to go the way we expect. The One turns out to be a Dud, the chemistry dies off in your marriage, you get divorced and on and on.
How then can we cope with love disappointments? Studies show that certain people are more resilient-they adapt quickly and easily to change. When they hit unexpected, unwanted left turns in their lives, they use mentors, positive emotions and self-talk to help cope. These fortunate people can turn a bushel of lemons into a whole lemonade stand. So, aside from being envious, what can we learn from them?
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So now here are five ways resilient people turn love disappointments into unexpected blessings and opportunities:
1. Use Humor
Resilient people don’t dwell in the past, and constantly think about what was lost. They use the steps we just talked about to be forward-looking and choose new goals that bring a measure of hope and happiness. If you are suddenly single, start poking around a few online dating sites. Take a chance and go out on a blind date with your neighbor’s friend. Set some new dating goals for yourself, even though it’s absolutely the last thing you want to do. Shifting your attention will get you out of your slump. Really.
***If Eva can overcome her love disappointments, so can you!
Wishing you great love,