Love in 90 Days Finding Your True Love with Dr. Diana Kirschner 2012-05-17T08:52:05Z http://lovein90days.com/feed/atom/ WordPress Dr. Diana Kirschner http://www.lovein90days.com <![CDATA[How Samantha Used One Simple Idea To Create Sacred Lasting Love]]> http://lovein90days.com/?p=3425 2012-05-13T13:14:20Z 2012-05-11T16:11:51Z

Dating & Relationship Advice for Women

This dating & relationship advice for women blog is an interview with one of our awesome professional Love Mentors®, Tamara Green, LCSW. She is licensed in New York State as a Certified Social Worker and a member of the National Association of Social Workers for 23 years. Tamara’s background and training in mental health, certified hypnotherapy, and belief management allows her to employ powerful techniques such as hypnosis, guided meditation, and experiential exercises as a dating coach.  Nationally recognized, she lectures, and facilitates teleconference groups and workshops.  Now here is a relationship advice interview with Tamara on “How Samantha Used One Simple Idea to Create Sacred Lasting Love”:

Recently , I was so fortunate to have visited beautiful Sedona, Arizona during a Holiday Family Reunion. I was fascinated with the red earth, the rock formations, the twisted trees, the powerful vortexes and the mystical happenings. Wanting to learn more about this incredible place, I did some research and found out that the American Indians never lived in Sedona because they considered it Sacred Ground. They never dreamed of being hurtful, disrespectful or ungrateful of this wonderful land they called their spiritual home. No, their sole purpose in visiting Sedona was only for worship, soul dancing, meditation, and contemplation. So, at least once per year, the Indians would pack up their tee pees and make their journey to Sedona for their emotional and spiritual evolution. They felt honored, open, trusting and grateful toward this land.

My wonderful mentor and friend, Dr Diana Kirschner, once said to me that love relationships are sacred, or at least they can be. I agree with her 100%! And eventually, my mentee, Samantha, did too.  Samantha journeyed from feeling disconnected, discarded and heartbroken in her relationship to feeling like it was sacred, solid ground, a love she could count on.   Can you imagine what this planet would be like if everyone believed that relationships were sacred ground, just like the Indians thought of Sedona? Just feel that one for a second. Wow! People would actually treat each other with honor, openness, trust and gratitude – in other words, be a contributor to their relationships.

News Flash:  Tune into Tamara as she is interviewed on how to create sacred lasting love on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on May 15!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen, Click Here!

Samantha started Love Mentoring® when she thought her relationship with Oscar was over. She admittedly was creating quite a bit of drama when ever things did not go her way.  But now Samantha and Oscar are deeply bonded in love and planning a solid future together where they will travel the world and take it all in.

How can you make that journey in your love life, just like Samantha did?  I started off her sessions with these questions: “Samantha, do you contribute or take away from your relationship? How do you treat this relationship? How do you act? Who are you being, such as, your worst or best self? How would you rate yourself in this relationship (1 being your worst self to 10 being your best self)?” She gave herself a 2. Then I had her explore the roles and identities she was operating from with Oscar. For example, was she the martyr, lazy slug, workaholic, dominator, victim, pleaser, loser, responsible one, thoughtless one, controlling, controlled, abuser, or abused? Samantha realized that she was “The Needy One” and putting pressure on Oscar by needing him to give her what she so desperately wanted – “To fill a void”. And, when that ‘void’ was not being filled, she was able to see that she tramped over, dumped on and complained to Oscar – a lot!. It was clear that she was contributing less than her best and was not treating this relationship as sacred as she could. Samantha and Oscar’s relationship took a complete turnaround when she viewed herself as a contributor. So, instead of looking at Oscar and asking what he should do for her, she asked what she could do for him. Then, Oscar, noticing and appreciating this huge change, naturally started doing this with her, as well.

Now, my question to you is how can you contribute to your partner’s life? In other words, instead of seeing what’s wrong with them or instead of focusing on what they are not doing for you, look at what’s right about them and what they are doing for you! Note: When you are contributing (honoring, valuing, trusting, being in gratitude) to someone else, you are also contributing to yourself.   What goes around comes around.  So I’m happy to report that every area of Samantha’s life has dramatically improved since starting this program!

News Flash:  Tune into Tamara as she is interviewed on how to create sacred lasting love on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on May 15!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen,Click Here!

Do you remember what it felt like when you first got together with your partner? The romantic sparks were flying, you were so excited to be together, you couldn’t stop thinking of each other and you were constantly planning what you would do or say when you were together again and in each other’s arms. The energy that you two were being was spectacular and huge – the size and brightness of the sun – because you were contributing – honoring, trusting, being open and feeling so much gratitude for one another. You began as Sacred Lasting Love. Then time went by and you started expecting things from one other. For example, “He needs to be home on time”. “She needs to cook the meals”. Then came the judgements, “He’s so inconsiderate of my feelings!”. “She’s always nagging and suffocating me with all of her demands!”. The Sacred Lasting Love starts to get smaller and not so bright.  Then comes the anger and frustration with lots of arguments or even worse, the silent treatment. The Sacred Lasting Love shrinks, becoming even more dull. It reaches a high point of disillusionment, deficiency and catastrophe. The relationship is in constant turmoil and the Sacred Lasting Love is now the size of a pea, all black and shriveled. What happened? It started off so grand and amazing and now it’s down right scary!

Are you ready to hear that one simple idea to create Sacred Lasting Love? Are you ready to commit to making one change NOW that could help take your relationship back to sacred? Yes?! Good for you! Here it is: Every day for the next 30 days, tell your partner at least one thing about him or her that you are happy about, appreciate, thankful or grateful for. It doesn’t matter how angry you are at someone, you can always find something about them that you appreciate. Go ahead, try this out and see how things start to change for the better, just like it did for Samantha and Oscar. As a Love Mentor® and Couples Therapist, I have seen marriages on the brink of divorce turn completely around with this easy first step and I know that you and your partner can do it, too!!! Make a stand for yourself, your partner and your relationship and take it back to Sacred Lasting Love!!

Thank you, for your great relationship advice, Tamara! You can get your own one-on-one free 40 minute Love Mentoring® Session with Tamara  by phone or Skype! Just click here  & fill out the form, requesting Tamara.  Hurry–her time will fill up quickly!

Tune into Tamara as she is interviewed on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on May 15!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen,Click Here!

“How Samantha Used One Simple Idea to Create Sacred Lasting Love” -The dating & relationship advice for women interview with Love Mentor® Tamara Green

DATE: Tuesday, May 15, 2012      TIME: 5:00 pm Pacific/8:00pm Eastern for one hour

COST: No charge  JOIN US LIVE VIA: Telephone, Skype, and Replay Access-Click Here For Details

     In this free dating & relationship advice for women seminar you will discover how to:

- Turn around your relationship with Sacred Love
- Show up in the relationship to feel happy and fulfilled forever
- Get endless love from your relationship
- Feel cherished. honored , open, trusting, and more grateful for the one you love
- Stay focused on the one facet of your relationship so that you create lasting love together
- Create Sacred Lasting Love!
And so much more  . . .
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Thank you, Tamara, for your wise words and relationship advice for women. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session  by phone or Skype with Tamara, click hereor go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching and ask for Tamara on the form. For more information about this and future Love Mentoring® Seminars please visit-
http://www.lovementoring.com

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Dating Tips & Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating for over 50s. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

]]> 0 Dr. Diana Kirschner http://www.lovein90days.com <![CDATA[How a Simple Change Led to the Relationship of Alicia's Dreams]]> http://lovein90days.com/?p=3421 2012-05-07T13:12:43Z 2012-05-06T20:45:57Z

Dating Advice for Women

Today’s blog is written by one of our awesome professional Love Mentors®, Karen Holland.  Karen is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who specializes in working with couples and individuals getting in and out of relationships.  She helps couples create passionate, fulfilling relationships.  Karen also helps singles heal from broken hearts and  find the relationship of their dreams. Now here’s Karen on how a simple change in one of her mentee’s minds (a woman named Alicia) led to the relationship of her dreams.

For the last couple of years, I’ve been walking by a yard with a dog that was tied up to a post with a six foot chain.  The dog would run in the same circular pattern, limited by the length of his chain.  Recently, I noticed that the owners built a large kennel giving the dog free rein to run much farther and in any direction it pleased.  Yet, the dog still runs in exactly the same way, in a small circular space.

It got me thinking about the power of limiting beliefs.   I mean, they’re just thoughts, right?  They don’t actually limit our physical reality but we sure behave as if they do, much like the dog on the invisible chain.  We create limiting beliefs in response to circumstances, usually the painful ones.   And, even though as human beings we have a remarkable ability to heal, we tend to respond to new experiences through this limited point of view and then our behaviors and experiences never actually change.

Before we get to a wonderful dating advice story about how Karen helped Alicia escape her limiting belief about men I want you to take advantage of this free offer.  If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session  by phone or Skype with Karen, click here or go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching and ask for Karen on the form.  Now back to our story:

One of my dear mentees, Alicia, a lovely plus-size gal, got her heart broken bad!  She developed the relationship killing beliefs that she was “unlovable” and “Men are jerks.”  In the context of these limiting beliefs, when she started to date again, she only saw men as either jerks or, if she really liked a guy, started to worry he wouldn’t be interested in her.  And, guess what?  She ignored some really great men (or pushed them away with her anxiety) and only focused on the ones who really were jerks. And boy, were there jerks who came into her life!!  So, like the dog in the wide open kennel, the world started to occur in a very limiting way even though in reality there were way more possibilities for her.

To break out of her pattern and become free from the chain to her past, I helped Alicia 1) Truly let go of the past painful experiences through forgiveness, finding the larger meaning and being grateful for what the experience taught her and 2) Learn to create more empowering, positive beliefs about her present and future.  I taught her to truly see the present for what it is—a wide open space for her to run and play in any direction she pleases.

In this context, I’m sure you can guess what happened to Alicia. Suddenly, Alicia was overwhelmed with responses from some really terrific men.  And, now she is with a truly wonderful man in the relationship of her dreams. He texts her daily, took her on an awesome trip to the Big Apple, bought her an emerald ring and they are making some serious future plans.

If you find yourself thinking the same negative thoughts or having the same negative experiences over and over, check to see if the chain is still there before coming to any conclusions about your actual reality.   Journal about the thoughts that are chaining you down.  Are they really true?  Is there any other way to look at your situation that might be more freeing, or feel better?   Write those thought down.  If they make you feel good, post them where you will see them daily.  You’ll find that you really can get the life and love you want!

Thank you Karen for your dating advice, wisdom and insight.

You can get your own one-on-one free 40 minute Love Mentoring® Session with Karen by phone or Skype! Just click here  & fill out the form, requesting Karen.  Hurry–her time will fill up quickly!

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Dating Tips & Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating for over 50s. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

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]]> 0 Dr. Diana Kirschner http://www.lovein90days.com <![CDATA[The Biggest Lie about Age that Women Still Believe]]> http://lovein90days.com/?p=3417 2012-04-29T18:48:00Z 2012-04-29T15:04:52Z

Dating Advice for Women Series

Most all of us fall prey to this lie.  And it can feel pretty awful…

However, it’s just not true.

The biggest lie about age that women still believe is—drum roll please—that men are not attracted to older women.  That once you hit your 40s, 50s, 60s or 70s, and you are single, it is next to impossible to get a great guy for the companionship, fun and romance you really want.  THIS IS SIMPLY NOT THE CASE.  It is just that women need support, encouragement and the dating advice tools to make love work (just as younger women do!).  And when they have that kind of coaching women of any age can create a relationship that is over the moon–the best they have ever ever had!

Here is a true love story by Brenda Thomas who is 60-something years young.  Brenda is in Love Mentoring® with one of our awesome coaches, Susan Kalinowski and she finally has her “Mr. Wonderful.”  (Note: If you want a powerful Love Mentor ally to help you, click here and get your own free 40 minute Love Mentoring® session by phone or Skype. You may even be able to speak with Susan, Brenda’s coach.  But hurry, her time slots are limited!). Now here’s Brenda’s story:

Several years ago, my cousin, Jonny, gave me a Mr. Wonderful doll for Christmas.  I had no idea what a hit Mr. Wonderful was making around the country.  He was a hunky male who, when his palm was pressed, uttered phrases like, “Let’s just cuddle tonight.” 

Or “Actually, I’m not sure which way to go.  I’ll turn in here and ask for directions.”  “Honey, why don’t you just relax and let me make dinner tonight” or “Can your mother stay another week?”

Funny, huh?  Not really…obviously, I didn’t have a Mr. Wonderful nor was one coming any time soon.  What’s wrong with just cuddling or asking for directions or making dinner?  Forget the one about my mother staying for another week….even I would have to veto that!

I felt like if I had a guy who came home and said, “Honey, you’ve been on my mind all day.  That’s why I bought you these flowers,”  I would be his adoring slave FOREVER!!!   Of course, that would be after he brought me back to consciousness.   But, as we know, men and women are just wired differently.  Really?  I have to say I’m being challenged in that belief.  Perhaps, we’re not all that different after all.  Maybe, it’s that each of us is unique with our little idiosyncrasies that develop over a lifetime.  Maybe, it’s not so much about being a male or a female. 

Maybe, it’s more about finding the person who makes life a little easier, a little more fun, a little more meaningful.  Finding the person who you can’t wait to share your piece of news with.  Or the person who makes you feel completely content just sitting next to him.

As you know, I’m writing this in my 60s.  I’ve been independent for 16 years…sometimes, happily so and sometimes, reluctantly.  I don’t think that I ever lost that joy for life….the ability to wake up happy every morning and look forward to whatever the day brings.  I don’t think being single made me think my life was terribly lacking in any way.  But, doesn’t a great love bring us closer to our higher selves?   When I was 18, I read Gibran just like every college freshman and his writing on Sorrow really stuck with me.  In fact, it’s been my mantra for life, “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy it can contain.”   There has been great sorrow in my life….almost always followed by great joy….the yin and the yang.  You just can’t have one without the other. 

And, so I’ve waited and waited….sixteen years…for the great joy that follows the great sorrow.  Lots of missteps, false starts, abrupt endings, unsatisfying couplings.

Then, I started hearing things like….

“Mmmm….you look so beautiful in the morning.”

“You know, I think it’s really important that we talk about our relationship.  Tell me whatever you’re feeling.  I believe in total honesty.”

OH MY GOD!!!!  HE’S HERE!!!  MR. WONDERFUL IS HERE!!! 

~Brenda Thomas

Thanks, Brenda, for this inspirational story!   Remember, you can find your own “Mr. Wonderful”  no matter what age you are right now.  Just like Brenda did. And if you want a powerful Love Mentor ally to help you, click here and get your own free 40 minute Love Mentoring® session by phone or Skype. You may even be able to speak with Susan, Brenda’s coach, and get her dating advice in your free session.  But hurry, her time slots are limited!

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana, The Love Mentor

♥Dating Advice, Love Mentoring® &  Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. has been a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

 

 

 

]]> 0 Dr. Diana Kirschner http://www.lovein90days.com <![CDATA[People Planet Pleasure Purpose: Five Meaningful Ways to Embody Eco-Conscious Intimacy]]> http://lovein90days.com/?p=3415 2012-04-23T03:46:51Z 2012-04-22T19:25:59Z

These are exciting times! In honor of Earth Day 2012, author, speaker and eco-muse, Tinamarie Bernard, is releasing her first eBook ~ People Planet Pleasure Purpose: Five Meaningful Ways to Embody Eco-Conscious Intimacy ~ and it is yours FREE.

Simply sign up for her newsletter and your FREE pdf copy of People Planet Pleasure Purpose: Five Meaningful Ways to Embody Eco-Conscious Intimacy will be delivered to you via email. Just go to  www.tinamariebernard.com and sign up for her newsletter.

In time for Earth Day 2012, this booklet introduces readers to the fundamentals of Ecosex. Written in trademark Tinamarie style – accessible, funny, provocative and relevant – People Planet Pleasure Purpose: Five Meaningful Ways to Embody Eco-Conscious Intimacy is for readers of many persuasions.

Drawing on years of personal exploration, research, emerging science and commitment to evoke positive change in the world, People Planet Pleasure Purpose: Five Meaningful Ways to Embody Eco-Conscious Intimacy inspires enthusiasm for environmentalism that touches the core of relationships.

For example, Tinamarie outlines how you can END YOUR ROMANCE WITH PLASTIC. Why does it matter to your sexual health, the wellbeing of your family and loved ones? What are estrogen disrupters, teratogens and mutagens, and how can living more organically translate into loving more orgasmically?

She shows you simple ways to become an inspired consumer who turns PURCHASE POWER INTO PURPOSE POWER. From eating foods for sexual prowess (with benefits to Mother Earth too), to understanding the deep and spiritual roots of Ecosex, Tinamarie builds enthusiasm and provides realistic options that will benefit people and the planet.  With insights from emerging thought-leaders in the field of Ecosex, People Planet Pleasure Purpose: Five Meaningful Ways to Embody Eco-Conscious Intimacy suggest how Ecosex can revitalize environmentalism by addressing the very real concerns of toxins and modern living on our private lives, sexual pleasure and reproductive health. Just go to  www.tinamariebernard.com and sign up for her newsletter to get your copy now.

Wishing you and the Planet health and love,

Dr. Diana

 

 

]]> 0 Dr. Diana Kirschner http://www.lovein90days.com <![CDATA[Invitation to an Extraordinary Event–Change Your Lovelife and Bless the Lives of Others!]]> http://lovein90days.com/?p=3413 2012-04-22T03:46:17Z 2012-04-21T15:44:19Z

I’m really excited to invite you to join me for a very special online gathering, where I’m a featured guest speaker. In the You Can Have It All summit, I share insights  about the topic: “Finding Love in 90 Days, and Sealing the Deal” from a more spiritual perspective. You can participate in the event for free, and enjoy a series of conversations about  how ‘You Can Have it All: A Woman’s Keys to Success.’

When you join us, you’ll be invited to experience live healing circle meditations at the beginning of each conversation, to integrate your mind and heart energies and prepare you to receive the transformation we’ll be offering.

In addition, this unique event features an opportunity to reach out and help others: learn what you can do to help stop human slave trafficking, and what you can do to enrich the lives of the hard-working poor in African villages.

More than an online gathering, this is your chance to become the change you wish to see in the world. Don’t miss it! Go to  http://wwww.canhaveitallnow.com to find out more and register for the event.

The life-changing summit starts April 23 so mark your calendar! It is your invitation to make a huge leap in personal transformation. We’re anticipating a large community of participants, so be sure to join the calls 7 minutes early, to arrive in time for the meditation and to make sure you won’t lose your spot. Don’t miss out!

Also–when you register for this free summit, you’ll receive wonderful gifts!  Three life-changing meditations from the program, “Be Your Best You — in 40 Days.” $97  worth of valuable free bonuses!

The event starts April 23 , and will deliver tons of inspiration and keys to success.  It continues and will provide deep-level joy and wisdom in  the following 9 days!  Make yourself into what you want to be, and be the answer to someone else’s need too.

Don’t miss out–join with us!

Visit  http://wwww.canhaveitallnow.com now to join this free event and receive great gifts to help you on your journey to success.

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

 

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