We all know what it is like getting ready for a date or a big event. We look in the mirror and don’t like what we see. The extra pound, a bulge here, a wrinkle there, a zit you can’t get rid of, not to mention hair that absolutely will not cooperate with your brush. Yes, the mirror often shows us all the things we do not like about our bodies. It generates lots of negative self-talk and doubts about your attractiveness, especially when you are about to meet a new hottie for your first few dates together.
But I just found some new studies have shown something remarkable, something that flies in the face of all that! Researchers found that a look in the mirror can actually work magic in the right direction if you know how to use it. It can actually help you feel good and less anxious about your body so that you develop a better body image. In these studies obese adults and adolescents were told to look in the mirror and discuss their bodies in a positive way. After 6 mirror sessions where they shifted their focus from what was wrong to what was right with their bodies, their self-talk changed. These obese people had an increase in their body satisfaction and had less disgust and anxiety about their bodies. This was true even for those who were depressed!!
So my dating advice is this: when you are getting ready for a date, look in the mirror and find all the things that are right with your body. Notice how your eyes twinkle, how your arms have good definition, your beautifully-shaped hands. Appreciate how you look. Do this for at least 10 minutes or until you feel a positive shift in your mood. You can shift yourself into a confident mode that I call your Diamond Self state. From there you are ready to go out there feeling confident, glowing, happy and full of charisma. Just this little step will help you on your journey to finding real love. You can get more dating advice centered on creating the Diamond Self in my new book, Love in 90 Days.
Wishing you all the love,