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So what does science have to say about all soul mates? Psychologists have found that people fall into two groups on the question of what makes for a successful relationship: Group one believes it’s based primarily on finding the “right person” (soul mate); while group two believes in the “work at it consistently” approach to lasting love. The soul mate group believes that choosing the right person helps overcome most of the problems that love throws our way. And if it doesn’t go so easy, we must have picked the wrong person. So therefore on to the next partner. The “work at it” group believes that there are no perfect princes or princesses and that we are all works in progress. Therefore, a lasting love relationship is never an easy process and we shouldn’t ever expect that. Having been a psychologist for more than 25 years and married to one man for the same long stretch, I can tell you that there are no perfect partners out there. Not me. Not my husband. Not any of my many clients, friends, or family members. Lasting love is a hard-won battle of personal discipline, compromise, dedication and commitment.
That’s why I decided to write How to Find Your Soulmate Online in Six Simple Steps. This ebook, which costs less than a latte at Starbucks will show you the most effective ways to meet your soulmate online. What to look for and what you must do to prepare yourself to meet the One. So first off I want you to know that, chances are very good, there is more than one person, in fact several Ones who could fit the bill for you. And all of them are less than perfect. But if there are no perfect partners, how can you know whether your current partner can fit the bill as a soul mate? Here from the book are 11 relationship markers to help you know to what degree he is one of the Ones:
2 – You feel like your partnership was meant to be as if kissed by destiny.
3 – In your communication with each other there is a rapid “knowing” of what each of you means.
4 – You have a shared mission in life, perhaps a cause, a career, or the creation of a family.
5 – When you’re together the world seems like a better place.
6 – Your mood is elevated when you’re together. It’s not necessarily passion or excitement, although that’s there too at times.
7 – When you look at him you see a part of yourself that’s been missing. Perhaps it’s his assertiveness or joy of adventure. But it’s something that when added to your life, makes you feel more complete.
8 – Being together makes you more hopeful about the future you are creating.
9 – You can be more authentic and fully yourself around your partner.
10 – Being together makes each of you work harder on overcoming bad habits and becoming more loving people.
11 – These special qualities of connection are growing over time. Not disappearing completely or diminishing.
Don’t worry if you don’t feel all 11 of these things happening when you’re with your partner. That’s where the imperfection comes in–either in you or your partner. If you are experiencing six or more of these markers, chances are you are matched well. Over time you can work towards having all 11 of these soul mate qualities. So pick up a copy of How to Find Your Soulmate Online in 6 Simple Steps and let me show you how you can find your soulmate.
Here’s a letter from Robin who used Love Mentoring to marry her soul mate:
“Having a Love Mentor was what allowed me to get married. That guidance helped me get over my tendency to blame the other person and wanting to be right. Nurturing loving guidance combined with a firm hand in letting me know when I was being a spoiled brat allowed me to look at my own patterns from a neutral perspective. I learned that I deserve to be supported on all levels, including financially–that I could have a true reciprocal loving partnership. Our wedding was spectacular and I couldn’t be any happier!”
Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & the creator of global free mentoring love sessions, author of the newly released How to Find Your Soulmate Online in 6 Simple Steps and the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship and Dating Advice Newsletter.