Solid research shows tons of benefits from spiritual practice. First of all, studies clearly show that prayer and meditation can and do heal. For example, even when prayer takes place at a distance from a sick person, and those who are praying do not know those they are helping, there can be a positive and healing physical effect. Literally thousands of studies show that meditative practices of all kinds lower stress, anxiety, fear, and even blood pressure, while increasing feelings of being in the present and in a state of connection and serenity.
Even if you consider yourself an agnostic, atheist, or a rationalist, please be willing to open yourself and your love relationship to a Higher Power (HP) or Something Greater than yourself. At least for this one week consider adding a spiritual practice to your routine.
A spiritual practice usually involves communing with or contacting an HP. What do I mean by an HP? It could be nature, life, the universe, of which we are but a speck, or the forces of physics that govern everything. If you are so inclined HP could be spirit, light, angels, power animals, or love itself. When you connect to an HP, no matter how you understand it, you don’t have to go the distance alone and make it all happen in your couple by sheer will. Over time you develop a sense that the universe is benevolent and will provide support for you, your Beloved, and the relationship.
This is the ultimate soothing experience that allows you to be PRESENT and able to experience what is happening and how it might be worked out in a win-win way. You can do this instead of being in your head and agonizing about how bad things are, how right you are in the given situation, how your partner will NEVER EVER get it right, and so on. Don’t get stuck in the swamp of negativity and suffering.
Often our attention is so focused on being right and quietly or not so quietly justified, one-upping our partner, or holding onto resentments and how bad we feel, that our partnership seems empty and hopeless. Who do you think is hurt the most by your resentments, whether they are justified or not? Your partner? Your children? Others? Yes, they are hurt, but not as much as this one person.
That would be YOU.
Switching YOUR ATTENTION over to connecting with a Higher Power helps you stop that misery-resentment process and open up to new solutions. Through a regular spiritual practice you become able to receive intuitive gut hunches or messages that help you and, in turn, most difficult life and relationship situations. Usually these new inspired solutions offer both you and your Beloved a way to get your needs met that did not seem possible before. I like the way the great musician and songwriter Kenny Loggins puts it:
“My trust in a higher power that wants me to survive and have love in my life, is what keeps me moving forward no matter what happens.”
Wishing you love,